Alright man, I just repped you for posting this exchange and opening yourself up to criticism.
You've basically volunteered to take the Jumbotron test, but the audience is the RVF, possibly the most discerning Jumbotron audience on the planet. Takes balls. Or maybe an oversight, but let's just say you got balls.
I have a few observations to add.
1. In case you don't know what the Jumbotron test is, it's a test where you can show your buddies, or us, the text, and not be embarrassed by it. That comes from actually knowing what to text.
2. You came across as a nice dude. She also seemed to respond pretty lengthily which is not a bad sign. I disagree with some of the posters that she completely blew you off. If a girl texts you she is 'seeing someone' rather than 'I have a boyfriend,' that's not the greatest endorsement of a relationship I can think of. For all you know, the bitch has been seeing the dude for 2 weeks. The way she phrased it seemed like she left the door open for you.
She *may* have been asking for you to take charge, grab the bull by the horns and plow through. You could have stolen that dude's sandwich just by showing you're fucking cooler.
Either way, you did a 180 and assumed the worst, that she just met Mr. Right and you 'didn't want to interfere.' Even if the door wasn't open like I'm optimistically assuming, you can't win if you don't play the game. Put your quarter in and pull the crank, don't just leave.
3. When it comes to EVERYTHING with girls, it's best to be non-linear whenever you get the chance. That remark about the police was a GREAT opening topic, but you missed an opportunity at a great joke in there as a previous poster noted. The other thing is that you portrayed THIRST at damaging levels.
I completely disagree all texts have to be kept as logistics only. Girls have literally fallen in love with my text game. I can think of 3 girls off the top of my head who've explicitly said "I really like the way you text" or some variation of it. One of them had a (real) boyfriend at the time and I made the girl my LTR. Texting well is a sign of writing skills and social calibration. It hits a lot of good signals. But you have to know how to do it right or you'll just fuck up. You should keep texts short and to the point, send pings only when you know the bait is good, be funny, and most importantly help give off the vibe that you just do not give a fuck. There are also general rules like, getting to know early on, only texting from 1-9 pm or so so that you make sure she's awake and it "isn't too late to respond," and generally don't text too soon after she's responded, unless she texts you back within a minute.
The IDGAF vibe is the most important vibe in my game. You gave too many fucks about this chick and it showed. 'I'll wait 3 months and I won't forget.' Uf. Like I said, I think there was an opening for you there. Shit, it may STILL be there. But you'd have to make a drastic turnaround just from that last line.
Anyway, you seem like a nice dude from your texts and maybe a guy who doesn't want to employ 'game tactics' to get a girl. Just a final note that a lot of these 'tactics' are not sleazy at all and are really just about being interesting and conveying that. You want to entertain her, and entertain yourself by gauging her reactions. Game is about not being cookie-cutter.
Unless you're 6'2+ and a male model, then I guess you can get away with this text exchange. Otherwise, you gotta have a serious shift in perspective. If this forum doesn't do it for you, some bitch royally fucking you over will.
*EDIT: I gave the whole exchange a second read-through, I'm completely convinced she was into you. She responded lengthily, with lols, and used the word 'flattered.' There's a slight possibility she was letting you off easy, but I put it at 90% that this B wanted the D.
You were nice enough to say you weren't interested in being friendzoned right away when she said she was seeing someone. I think you jumped the gun, but then she comes back and says she STILL wants to see you. Some guys will interpret that as her weak attempt at friendzoning, I see it as an opening where you can put yourself in more compromising positions until you finally get the panties down.
Girls love drama. Girls WANT that temptation. When I went in for the first kiss with my last LTR, she told me she had a boyfriend. I just said "That explains a lot," got up and started walking out. She asks me as I'm right at the door, with a worried-ass look on her face: "We can still be friends, right?" I just said, straight faced, "No." Smiled, and walked the fuck out.
Banged her a week later. Bitch met my parents and had a tasty booty.
You've basically volunteered to take the Jumbotron test, but the audience is the RVF, possibly the most discerning Jumbotron audience on the planet. Takes balls. Or maybe an oversight, but let's just say you got balls.
I have a few observations to add.
1. In case you don't know what the Jumbotron test is, it's a test where you can show your buddies, or us, the text, and not be embarrassed by it. That comes from actually knowing what to text.
2. You came across as a nice dude. She also seemed to respond pretty lengthily which is not a bad sign. I disagree with some of the posters that she completely blew you off. If a girl texts you she is 'seeing someone' rather than 'I have a boyfriend,' that's not the greatest endorsement of a relationship I can think of. For all you know, the bitch has been seeing the dude for 2 weeks. The way she phrased it seemed like she left the door open for you.
She *may* have been asking for you to take charge, grab the bull by the horns and plow through. You could have stolen that dude's sandwich just by showing you're fucking cooler.
Either way, you did a 180 and assumed the worst, that she just met Mr. Right and you 'didn't want to interfere.' Even if the door wasn't open like I'm optimistically assuming, you can't win if you don't play the game. Put your quarter in and pull the crank, don't just leave.
3. When it comes to EVERYTHING with girls, it's best to be non-linear whenever you get the chance. That remark about the police was a GREAT opening topic, but you missed an opportunity at a great joke in there as a previous poster noted. The other thing is that you portrayed THIRST at damaging levels.
I completely disagree all texts have to be kept as logistics only. Girls have literally fallen in love with my text game. I can think of 3 girls off the top of my head who've explicitly said "I really like the way you text" or some variation of it. One of them had a (real) boyfriend at the time and I made the girl my LTR. Texting well is a sign of writing skills and social calibration. It hits a lot of good signals. But you have to know how to do it right or you'll just fuck up. You should keep texts short and to the point, send pings only when you know the bait is good, be funny, and most importantly help give off the vibe that you just do not give a fuck. There are also general rules like, getting to know early on, only texting from 1-9 pm or so so that you make sure she's awake and it "isn't too late to respond," and generally don't text too soon after she's responded, unless she texts you back within a minute.
The IDGAF vibe is the most important vibe in my game. You gave too many fucks about this chick and it showed. 'I'll wait 3 months and I won't forget.' Uf. Like I said, I think there was an opening for you there. Shit, it may STILL be there. But you'd have to make a drastic turnaround just from that last line.
Anyway, you seem like a nice dude from your texts and maybe a guy who doesn't want to employ 'game tactics' to get a girl. Just a final note that a lot of these 'tactics' are not sleazy at all and are really just about being interesting and conveying that. You want to entertain her, and entertain yourself by gauging her reactions. Game is about not being cookie-cutter.
Unless you're 6'2+ and a male model, then I guess you can get away with this text exchange. Otherwise, you gotta have a serious shift in perspective. If this forum doesn't do it for you, some bitch royally fucking you over will.
*EDIT: I gave the whole exchange a second read-through, I'm completely convinced she was into you. She responded lengthily, with lols, and used the word 'flattered.' There's a slight possibility she was letting you off easy, but I put it at 90% that this B wanted the D.
You were nice enough to say you weren't interested in being friendzoned right away when she said she was seeing someone. I think you jumped the gun, but then she comes back and says she STILL wants to see you. Some guys will interpret that as her weak attempt at friendzoning, I see it as an opening where you can put yourself in more compromising positions until you finally get the panties down.
Girls love drama. Girls WANT that temptation. When I went in for the first kiss with my last LTR, she told me she had a boyfriend. I just said "That explains a lot," got up and started walking out. She asks me as I'm right at the door, with a worried-ass look on her face: "We can still be friends, right?" I just said, straight faced, "No." Smiled, and walked the fuck out.
Banged her a week later. Bitch met my parents and had a tasty booty.