"Why? Do you have [xyz factors that you explain are the best qualities of women of her generation]"
To defuse 'you don't respect women or yourself' after she said "...do you respect me?": "why would it matter if I don't respect women or myself? That says something do you think?"
To defuse 'you don't respect women or yourself' after she said "...do you respect me?": "why would it matter if I don't respect women or myself? That says something do you think?"