This is so bad but so true.
Lately I've reached that point where I'm perfectly OK whether my GF stays with me or not. It's weird state of mind to be honest. It's not indifference as I care about her and or relationship. It's more like maturity. That understanding that real love or connection is natural and mutual. When we try to force it to make it work it then it starts to go downhill, resentment kicks in and then it's best for both of us to let go and go our own way.
I tried to put it in words and this is what I told my GF numerous times:
"I want you to be happy. If you can be happier with someone else then go for it, leave me and never look back"
"You can't force love. If you ever catch yourself explaining yourself why you're with me it's probably over"
"Never be afraid of leaving me if you're not happy with me"
"Don't ever TRY to make our relationship work, don't change. Stay the way you are and see how it works out. If that is not enough we have no chance longterm"
Lately I've reached that point where I'm perfectly OK whether my GF stays with me or not. It's weird state of mind to be honest. It's not indifference as I care about her and or relationship. It's more like maturity. That understanding that real love or connection is natural and mutual. When we try to force it to make it work it then it starts to go downhill, resentment kicks in and then it's best for both of us to let go and go our own way.
I tried to put it in words and this is what I told my GF numerous times:
"I want you to be happy. If you can be happier with someone else then go for it, leave me and never look back"
"You can't force love. If you ever catch yourself explaining yourself why you're with me it's probably over"
"Never be afraid of leaving me if you're not happy with me"
"Don't ever TRY to make our relationship work, don't change. Stay the way you are and see how it works out. If that is not enough we have no chance longterm"