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(08-28-2015 08:16 AM)Paracelsus Wrote:  

(08-28-2015 08:07 AM)zanetti Wrote:  

I'm one of those people that quickly gets irritated by little things. Example:

I'm currently on holiday in Bucharest, having a good time, decided to go to a Turkish shoarma place for lunch but when I got there, a large group of elderly Israeli tourists had just arrived. They were being rude, loud, jumping ahead in the line etc.

My mood had been fine 1 minute earlier but from one moment to the next it felt like a dark cloud came over me. Being exposed to their behavior felt like some sort of personal attack on me, even though it obviously wasn't, it just felt like that. It took about 30 minutes to calm down after this.

I know suppressing isn't the answer and doesn't work. Has anyone ever successfully dealt with such anger issues, is there some sort of programme that can help with this? And I'm not referring to anger management classes here like you see in the movies.

Thanks

Z

You can control your emotions, even if you cannot control the situation. You can choose how you react to a situation. Try reciting to yourself whenever the anger starts building up: "I am responsible. I am responsible." It's difficult to maintain anger when you are intellectualising which emotion to choose.

Agreed.

There's no reason to get bent out of shape for things that are completely out of your control. Shit happens to all people, everywhere. The key is to realize that all these other people are going through their lives too - they're in different places in their own lives and may be completely oblivious to the fact that they are annoying or irritating someone else. Maybe they don't understand the local customs. Or... maybe they're really are just assholes, but if it's out of your hands it isn't worth adding to your own stress level.

Now that's not to say you shouldn't check someone when they cross the line, especially if they have truly wronged you. I firmly believe you should call people out on their shit when it's warranted and there's limited potential for retaliation.

I came to a number of realizations like this over the past couple of years and I will still get a bit pissed off when someone cuts me off in traffic or jumps the line. But you know what, at the end of the day I'm still going to get where I need to go and I'm going to forget about that radar blip in a few minutes anyway. You'll be much happier in life when you stop worrying about all the minutia. Life's too short. My 2c.