Does anyone have any pointers for social circle game?
I have a pretty big social circle in the city where I'm at, and it's always throwing up new girls for me to meet, but I never seem to be able to pull any of them. I still get more success from cold approaching. What gives?
I seem to have a few sticking points in these scenarios, and was wondering if any of you guys have any advice.
The basic problem seems to me to be one of isolating the girl. If I can get her one-on-one, I'm golden. But if you're meeting her through friends, those friends are going to stick around and be an obstacle. For example, say you're sitting around with a mixed group of 4 or 5 people, one of whom is your target. How do you create enough of a personal vibe with her that it's not weird to ask for her number or invite her to hang out one-on-one at a later date, and yet at the same time still participate in the group conversation going on?
Then the other problem is that you feel like you're competing for her attention, which is never a good position to be in. In these group scenarios there is always someone else either hitting on her, or at least trying to talk to her. If you start competing for her, you look like a chode; if you don't compete, then you lose by default. What's the best strategy in this situation?
Obviously I know the best thing to do is wait for a chance to get her alone, but if the group I'm with is at a sit-down eating and drinking kind of place, then I'm not going to get that chance.
What do you guys think?
I have a pretty big social circle in the city where I'm at, and it's always throwing up new girls for me to meet, but I never seem to be able to pull any of them. I still get more success from cold approaching. What gives?
I seem to have a few sticking points in these scenarios, and was wondering if any of you guys have any advice.
The basic problem seems to me to be one of isolating the girl. If I can get her one-on-one, I'm golden. But if you're meeting her through friends, those friends are going to stick around and be an obstacle. For example, say you're sitting around with a mixed group of 4 or 5 people, one of whom is your target. How do you create enough of a personal vibe with her that it's not weird to ask for her number or invite her to hang out one-on-one at a later date, and yet at the same time still participate in the group conversation going on?
Then the other problem is that you feel like you're competing for her attention, which is never a good position to be in. In these group scenarios there is always someone else either hitting on her, or at least trying to talk to her. If you start competing for her, you look like a chode; if you don't compete, then you lose by default. What's the best strategy in this situation?
Obviously I know the best thing to do is wait for a chance to get her alone, but if the group I'm with is at a sit-down eating and drinking kind of place, then I'm not going to get that chance.
What do you guys think?