Hi fellow forum mates!!! I apologise in advance for this long post. I am a corporate lawyer, by profession, aged 27. Lately, I have been taking stock of my life and have concluded that I have not managed to get out of myself anything near what I should have at my age and my chief worries are as follows:
1.My parents are growing old(father in mid 60s and mother in early 60s) and the thought of them gone tears me up. I do not know how I am going to remain emotionally stable, once they are gone. On top of that, I have no doubt been a bad son to them. While I live in a separate city from where they do, it is not very far and I visit them often enough.
2.I am not doing well professionally as I should be. I have a hysterical lady boss, who starts screaming if there is slight deviation from her plan, which is very difficult to determine. Sometimes, I wonder if I will end up getting fired.
3.Because of problems stated in no.2, I am obviously looking for other jobs. I have not got many other offers, to be honest. While I have graduated out of one of the best law schools in India, my academic record in college was somewhere in between(say in the early 40s in a class of 100). This may sound like an excuse but the real reason was that I did not adjust to law school life early on in my and scored lower marks in social science subjects(complete with feminism crap) and I was mostly in the top tier of class in corporate laws. Well, coming back to the issue, the job offers that I get are in general, in another city where the cost of living is 1.25x the cost of living in the city that I stay in and yet the kind of salaries that I get offered are 1.2x the current salaries. Further, the other city is far and I would not be able to see my parents as often as I do currently. However, I am being advised that if I worry too much about getting fired, I should may be explore opportunities in that other city, while I think I would not really be very happy there.
All of the above is affecting the clarity of my thinking. I just want to get my life in track. I have thought of changing careers but 27 seems too late in the day for me(especially, if I have to just change into an MBA).While I think that I should perhaps prepare very well for my interviews and try going for the broke in my own city, I wonder if I should not be averse to opportunities in other cities. Further, I wonder if I do get fired, whether I will get a job worth what I am earning now(which is not too much but not too little either). I cannot focus very well because of the underlying fear in my heart. Please advise how I should be making decisions in life and be able to ignore fear. Thank you.
1.My parents are growing old(father in mid 60s and mother in early 60s) and the thought of them gone tears me up. I do not know how I am going to remain emotionally stable, once they are gone. On top of that, I have no doubt been a bad son to them. While I live in a separate city from where they do, it is not very far and I visit them often enough.
2.I am not doing well professionally as I should be. I have a hysterical lady boss, who starts screaming if there is slight deviation from her plan, which is very difficult to determine. Sometimes, I wonder if I will end up getting fired.
3.Because of problems stated in no.2, I am obviously looking for other jobs. I have not got many other offers, to be honest. While I have graduated out of one of the best law schools in India, my academic record in college was somewhere in between(say in the early 40s in a class of 100). This may sound like an excuse but the real reason was that I did not adjust to law school life early on in my and scored lower marks in social science subjects(complete with feminism crap) and I was mostly in the top tier of class in corporate laws. Well, coming back to the issue, the job offers that I get are in general, in another city where the cost of living is 1.25x the cost of living in the city that I stay in and yet the kind of salaries that I get offered are 1.2x the current salaries. Further, the other city is far and I would not be able to see my parents as often as I do currently. However, I am being advised that if I worry too much about getting fired, I should may be explore opportunities in that other city, while I think I would not really be very happy there.
All of the above is affecting the clarity of my thinking. I just want to get my life in track. I have thought of changing careers but 27 seems too late in the day for me(especially, if I have to just change into an MBA).While I think that I should perhaps prepare very well for my interviews and try going for the broke in my own city, I wonder if I should not be averse to opportunities in other cities. Further, I wonder if I do get fired, whether I will get a job worth what I am earning now(which is not too much but not too little either). I cannot focus very well because of the underlying fear in my heart. Please advise how I should be making decisions in life and be able to ignore fear. Thank you.