This is an ongoing challenge you'll face right through your evolution as a man. Even when you've progressed through your newbie stage and have banged a lot of women, there are still moments when you're not on.
It's normal and you should embrace it as part of your being rather than try to fight and allow it to dominate you. In the modern world we face a heavy cognitive load with work, social lives and countless other bits of information (news) that fly your way. Establishing boundaries helps to monitor that. These boundaries can be either outward facing (refusing to spend time with negative energy people), or inward facing. Inward facing boundaries I like to view as mentally reinforcing to yourself not to get so caught up and over-obsessed with something (ie. your work or an interaction with a colleague). Do your best of course, but if you begin to feel tired and anti-social as a result, pull yourself back and realise that work is work and it will eventually get done.
What RexImperator said about mindfulness is correct. The more time you spend thinking and relaxing in this way, the less your programming tasks will be taxing on your sense of self.
And of course the anti-social feeling is an illusion. If you forced yourself to open a girl while walking away from your office, the negative energy will wash away and leave you feeling "on" instantly. Sometimes you need to engineer the first approach to turn the switch - otherwise you'd be too distracted to get anything done (because being always on in a game sense implies that you're hunting only for pussy at all times, which you shouldn't be).
A wing of mine had a similar job that he felt crippled his weekday game, so he began chatting up the girl on the corner convenience store by the office every day. He'd pop in at random times for a drink/pack of gum/whatever and just chat with her about random shit to keep the social juices flowing. She was also a beneficiary of this (as lone retail workers get bored), and it didn't have to be with the aim of sleeping with her quickly. Think of it as a calibrating aid.
One of these will help you.
It's normal and you should embrace it as part of your being rather than try to fight and allow it to dominate you. In the modern world we face a heavy cognitive load with work, social lives and countless other bits of information (news) that fly your way. Establishing boundaries helps to monitor that. These boundaries can be either outward facing (refusing to spend time with negative energy people), or inward facing. Inward facing boundaries I like to view as mentally reinforcing to yourself not to get so caught up and over-obsessed with something (ie. your work or an interaction with a colleague). Do your best of course, but if you begin to feel tired and anti-social as a result, pull yourself back and realise that work is work and it will eventually get done.
What RexImperator said about mindfulness is correct. The more time you spend thinking and relaxing in this way, the less your programming tasks will be taxing on your sense of self.
And of course the anti-social feeling is an illusion. If you forced yourself to open a girl while walking away from your office, the negative energy will wash away and leave you feeling "on" instantly. Sometimes you need to engineer the first approach to turn the switch - otherwise you'd be too distracted to get anything done (because being always on in a game sense implies that you're hunting only for pussy at all times, which you shouldn't be).
A wing of mine had a similar job that he felt crippled his weekday game, so he began chatting up the girl on the corner convenience store by the office every day. He'd pop in at random times for a drink/pack of gum/whatever and just chat with her about random shit to keep the social juices flowing. She was also a beneficiary of this (as lone retail workers get bored), and it didn't have to be with the aim of sleeping with her quickly. Think of it as a calibrating aid.
One of these will help you.