Hey RVF, I need some advice on this situation.
I met this African Muslim girl at a work function (don't worry, I work for a large organization and she isn't in my area) and she was into me from the get-go. Displaying lots of IOIs, like touching me voluntarily, shoving me when I tease her, hitting me up on the internal chat system. We first met 6 weeks ago and I have managed to maintain her interest. We have hung out a couple of times, just the two of us, during this period, but not as proper "dates". Once was coffee after work and the other was lunch.
I would normally have moved things along much faster than this, but our logistics are fucked. She lives with her family a 45 minute train ride from work. I have a live in LTR. So both her place and my place are out. She also doesn't drink.
I have read the recent RoK article on dating Muslim girls and agree that isolation is key because she can't be seen to be dating me. The issue is that I don't have a good place to isolate her to. I am confident this girl is into me and DTF, if I can just get her somewhere private. This is a flag I really want, so please don't just tell me to give up and next her. I also enjoy the challenge. She has some long distance bf as well, so I know she isn't looking to LTR me.
My current plan is to get her out after work, making it clear it is just the two of us hanging out. Go for coffee (she doesn't drink), then froyo (venue change), then a walk in the park where hopefully we can find a secluded spot where I can escalate a bit. All going well, we will go to the movies, I will get seats way up the back and escalate even more. If things go really well we will then transition to a hotel room. This is all far from ideal, but I'm not sure where else to go for privacy.
I should also add that she doesn't know that I have a live in LTR. I have told her that my home life is "complicated" and she didn't question it. I'm not worried about her telling my LTR and getting me in trouble because she has to keep our relationship a secret from her family and social circle. So she has just as much to lose, if not more, than me.
For additional context, I live in Melbourne, Australia and we both work in the CBD (i.e. downtown).
Any advice on how to proceed, particularly better ways to isolate, is appreciated.
I met this African Muslim girl at a work function (don't worry, I work for a large organization and she isn't in my area) and she was into me from the get-go. Displaying lots of IOIs, like touching me voluntarily, shoving me when I tease her, hitting me up on the internal chat system. We first met 6 weeks ago and I have managed to maintain her interest. We have hung out a couple of times, just the two of us, during this period, but not as proper "dates". Once was coffee after work and the other was lunch.
I would normally have moved things along much faster than this, but our logistics are fucked. She lives with her family a 45 minute train ride from work. I have a live in LTR. So both her place and my place are out. She also doesn't drink.
I have read the recent RoK article on dating Muslim girls and agree that isolation is key because she can't be seen to be dating me. The issue is that I don't have a good place to isolate her to. I am confident this girl is into me and DTF, if I can just get her somewhere private. This is a flag I really want, so please don't just tell me to give up and next her. I also enjoy the challenge. She has some long distance bf as well, so I know she isn't looking to LTR me.
My current plan is to get her out after work, making it clear it is just the two of us hanging out. Go for coffee (she doesn't drink), then froyo (venue change), then a walk in the park where hopefully we can find a secluded spot where I can escalate a bit. All going well, we will go to the movies, I will get seats way up the back and escalate even more. If things go really well we will then transition to a hotel room. This is all far from ideal, but I'm not sure where else to go for privacy.
I should also add that she doesn't know that I have a live in LTR. I have told her that my home life is "complicated" and she didn't question it. I'm not worried about her telling my LTR and getting me in trouble because she has to keep our relationship a secret from her family and social circle. So she has just as much to lose, if not more, than me.
For additional context, I live in Melbourne, Australia and we both work in the CBD (i.e. downtown).
Any advice on how to proceed, particularly better ways to isolate, is appreciated.