Day 3 to Day 13 -
Work has been quite busy. Been socialising whenever I can. I go out 3 times / week, and meet strangers. Basically been practicing to always feel genuinely happy (have amped up my meditation) and opening sets.
A girl in the office is giving me constant IOIs for 2 weeks now. I'm not reacting yet as I'm already in the midst of political wars in the company. Wiser to stay low-key until things have settled down. Also I'm not comfortable hitting on work colleagues.
Day 14 -
Went to an afterwork party and socialised well. Opened many sets. Engaged few women, 2 of whom seemed pretty attracted to me. A croatian girl was giving a few IOIs during our convo, but it was a pretty formalish event, so didn't make any advances.
Day 16 -
Went out at 3pm and stayed out till midnight. Opened many sets and engaged a few women. Idea was to feel extroverted (usually more than 3-4h of socialising tires me out because of my introvertedness. This didn't happen today. I was full of energy the whole 9h). At one bar I opened every single set, and towards the end, one of the women was hitting on me, which was nice. She was extremely shy though, which taught me how shy women can be easily attracted to outgoing men.
Improvements -
Last two weeks have clearly made me easy going and feel comfortable in social settings. I no longer worry about being in the groove or feel socialising as expending energy, thus tiring me out. I feel confident enough to go up to any set, but engaging women is still an issue. Sometimes when I approach women (even with no intention of hitting on them, but to simply socialise), they reply in 1-2 words and walk away. It hurts, but I'm learning not to let that affect my mood or momentum.
I guess as edtf says -
"Type 2: Girls that don't like you - doesn't matter what you do or say, she is not interested. Whether or not you escalate, she will still not be interested."
Next steps -
Starting next weekend, I'll start working on engaging women deeper and building attraction.
Work has been quite busy. Been socialising whenever I can. I go out 3 times / week, and meet strangers. Basically been practicing to always feel genuinely happy (have amped up my meditation) and opening sets.
A girl in the office is giving me constant IOIs for 2 weeks now. I'm not reacting yet as I'm already in the midst of political wars in the company. Wiser to stay low-key until things have settled down. Also I'm not comfortable hitting on work colleagues.
Day 14 -
Went to an afterwork party and socialised well. Opened many sets. Engaged few women, 2 of whom seemed pretty attracted to me. A croatian girl was giving a few IOIs during our convo, but it was a pretty formalish event, so didn't make any advances.
Day 16 -
Went out at 3pm and stayed out till midnight. Opened many sets and engaged a few women. Idea was to feel extroverted (usually more than 3-4h of socialising tires me out because of my introvertedness. This didn't happen today. I was full of energy the whole 9h). At one bar I opened every single set, and towards the end, one of the women was hitting on me, which was nice. She was extremely shy though, which taught me how shy women can be easily attracted to outgoing men.
Improvements -
Last two weeks have clearly made me easy going and feel comfortable in social settings. I no longer worry about being in the groove or feel socialising as expending energy, thus tiring me out. I feel confident enough to go up to any set, but engaging women is still an issue. Sometimes when I approach women (even with no intention of hitting on them, but to simply socialise), they reply in 1-2 words and walk away. It hurts, but I'm learning not to let that affect my mood or momentum.
I guess as edtf says -
"Type 2: Girls that don't like you - doesn't matter what you do or say, she is not interested. Whether or not you escalate, she will still not be interested."
Next steps -
Starting next weekend, I'll start working on engaging women deeper and building attraction.