Quote: (01-05-2015 08:42 AM)griffinmill Wrote:
This is an interesting conundrum I find myself in yet again.
I've been on 4 dates now with a girl who is withholding sex. Strong make-outs with LMR (pushing hand away from erogenous zones) and her claiming that it was "my idea anyway to wait five dates". Disclaimer: I say this to most women on the first date, part irony, and reverse psychology. I usually bang women on Date 2 if not on Date 1. The issue with this current girl is one I am facing frequently with girls in their 30s. I am 36. Girls in their early 20s and MILFs in their 40s are sexual, affectionate, and will jump on my dick without any pressure.
I faced the same obstacles with the last girl around my own age I dated. Though she gave it up on date 3 (after much seduction), I was aghast at facing further LMR on subsequent dates. "You need to behave yourself" she would say or "we'll do something next time".
I dumped her; and a short time later I had a 24 year old on my rug telling me she loves to swallow.
All this is very frustrating, and IMO causes things to fizzle out fast. Sex is the elephant in the room and if it's not being addressed or neglected I find it to be awkward. Also, I then unwittingly fall head-first into "provider" category. I know it's not always good to generalise, but I think it may have something to do with girls around my own age wanting to be smart about giving it up, and are seriously looking for LTRs after a few runs on the cock-carousel. Maybe others have not encountered this with girls in their 30s, but it's common for me, and I'm seriously thinking of sticking to girls in their (early) 20s.
Anybody with any experience with this kind of behaviour?
Yes, I've dealt with this and it gets worse when women hit their forties and their sex drives drop.
What you're probably dealing with is the "reformed whore syndrome." She dropped her pants for a lot of guys in her twenties, none worked out, and now you're gonna pay the price. This is a neurotic quirk of women who have been single too long and maybe feel like they ran up their "number count" too much.
Here is how bad it gets. Before I was married, I used to sleep with a woman who was about 24-25 and would do anything with me, at practically anytime. She remained single while I was married. After my divorce I caught up with her. Two decades later, she was like a totally different person.
You'd think that being in her forties, she'd realize her SMV had plummeted and she'd give it up easier. It was the opposite. She was now an uptight prude who avoided sex and judged anyone who had it. I started calling her The Church Lady and we stopped speaking soon after.
Such women are failures when it comes to using sex as a mating strategy. They failed to snare the husband with it in their twenties, and they're now scaring off older men by behaving like nuns in their thirties and forties.
Another reason to go for younger women -- if one was needed.