The best way to overcome this is to try and think about what your feeling at the very moment you are experiencing it.
This is what the Buddhists describe as "thinking with one's gut".
There is an unconscious dialog going on inside you as you are experiencing those feelings. That dialog is dark to you, but you can see it if you try. Bringing that up into the light of awareness will allow you to see exactly what's bothering you.
Then you can examine and question it. For example you notice the dialog is saying, "Oh she was the One!![[Image: sad.gif]](https://rooshvforum.network/images/smilies/sad.gif)
". (Though I don't think that's just it)
Then ask yourself, "Well, what if that were true? What would it be like if you stayed together?" "Would there be a price to pay?" "Why didn't it work out to begin with?", etc.
Follow up each answer with another question to that answer and keep digging, and digging, and digging. You just may discover there's a buried treasure of liberation down there and find yourself laughing uncontrollably about it all.
This is what the Buddhists describe as "thinking with one's gut".
There is an unconscious dialog going on inside you as you are experiencing those feelings. That dialog is dark to you, but you can see it if you try. Bringing that up into the light of awareness will allow you to see exactly what's bothering you.
Then you can examine and question it. For example you notice the dialog is saying, "Oh she was the One!
". (Though I don't think that's just it) Then ask yourself, "Well, what if that were true? What would it be like if you stayed together?" "Would there be a price to pay?" "Why didn't it work out to begin with?", etc.
Follow up each answer with another question to that answer and keep digging, and digging, and digging. You just may discover there's a buried treasure of liberation down there and find yourself laughing uncontrollably about it all.