I get your predicaments, but here is the thing, we here often like to call out exactly how shallow girls relationships with each other are and how male friendships are superior - which they are. Then we can't really complain when you don't make lifelong friends every day. As always, WIA and Dr. Howard nails it, real friendships are created from shared purpose and overcoming struggle. Most people's friends are from high school and college where chasing girls, getting drunk and getting into fights was all the purpose you needed. That's what you can still talk about 10 or 20 years later, that girl, that fight, people doing crazy stuff.
This is obviously not so once you get older. To be honest, I don't find it difficult to find drinking buddies, at least no abroad, where every dude is usually there for the same reason. Just sign up for some Meetup group or go to some other social gathering and be cool and you'll get invited to parties and other stuff. What is more difficult is realizing you need to work on friendships once you no longer just happen to be at the same place. I'm bad at this admitted, but you need to be the connector and creator of social events. Invite people more than you probably are used to. This is why, if I go to a new city or country, I try to get involved in several different social venues, sports, business etc, not just for the immediate access to women in these groups, but so you have several loose groups which you can invite people along to. I am beginning to realize that making new friendships past a certain age requires effort and a general social lifestyle. I think it's worth it though, so you don't end up as my father who lost his entire social life once his knees gave out and he couldn't play sports anymore.
This is obviously not so once you get older. To be honest, I don't find it difficult to find drinking buddies, at least no abroad, where every dude is usually there for the same reason. Just sign up for some Meetup group or go to some other social gathering and be cool and you'll get invited to parties and other stuff. What is more difficult is realizing you need to work on friendships once you no longer just happen to be at the same place. I'm bad at this admitted, but you need to be the connector and creator of social events. Invite people more than you probably are used to. This is why, if I go to a new city or country, I try to get involved in several different social venues, sports, business etc, not just for the immediate access to women in these groups, but so you have several loose groups which you can invite people along to. I am beginning to realize that making new friendships past a certain age requires effort and a general social lifestyle. I think it's worth it though, so you don't end up as my father who lost his entire social life once his knees gave out and he couldn't play sports anymore.