Quote: (10-05-2014 11:13 AM)Quintus Curtius Wrote:
But it definitely is a shit test, and a subtle form of disrespect. It's an attempt to hijack the interaction and make it about food. Decent chicks don't do this shit. My deflection methods used to be (and still are) the following:
Quintus summarizes this perfectly. This isn't about money. It's that buying someone you barely know food--when that wasn't the plan or the offer--is bad game. Period. The very rare exceptions--the girl is a (skinny) diabetic or you just know within 10 minutes that she's going to be the mother of your children--are just that, rare. I'm frankly astounded that buying a strange girl food merely because she wants it doesn't ring as problematic to so many of you. This is a weak frame. She's calling the shots instead of you. Do you also let her pick the venue?
The idea that you "scare the cat" by not giving into its demands is also silly. Not to mention that the cat thing is a daygame metaphor. At night, it's not about not scaring a timid cat; it's about not getting barreled over by an emboldened chick throwing shit tests at you with impunity, with full knowledge that dozens of dudes are swiping right on her Tinder even as you speak. As several posters have correctly noted, good chicks don't generally pull this shit. Only spoiled, entitled chicks who are used to extracting extra free stuff from dudes will do this, as will general tire kickers, time wasters, and sport daters. The only way to get a chick like that in line is redraw what Quintus aptly termed "boundaries." Remember: these are large children asking for a happy meal. But instead of a tantrum, she's silently holding the pussy for ransom. Do you give in?
Stop. Feeding. These. Hoes. You not only hurt yourself. You hurt all of us. With every girl getting free meals (because, let's face it, an appetizer or two is a meal for the type of chicks we're going out with), we raise the cover charge of a basic (pre-bang) first date.