Quote: (09-08-2014 01:29 PM)kaotic Wrote:
Quote: (09-06-2014 11:16 PM)Parlay44 Wrote:
I think a bad personality is a bigger boner killer to me than looks. I admit I won't gf up a girl that's not at least a 7. That's just my ego talking though.
I just see too many guys my way dating down. The guys are easy 7's but openly dating 4's and 5's. The market is completely skewed.
I've also noticed this. A guy I know is a semi-pro body builder but got married to this bigger girl, she's a sweetheart but....it doesn't make sense. (I think her family might be loaded).
I don't understand why they date down, perhaps lack of inner-game or self esteem
Maybe that is a tradeoff he thinks is worth it, if she's a bit below him in looks but he thinks she's in for the long haul with the kind of loyalty a man can't buy from a woman. (I'd have to see the photos I guess.)
What I really don't get is guys married to super fatties/landwhale types, who also treat them like shit. It's like having a big mouth goes in both directions with these gals. I do think there's a vicious-cycle element in there where the woman judges the man harshly for being with her. A woman who's with a man who decides to go way down in his SMV probably loses respect for him, and thus feels subconsciously justified in being irascible and bratty, and if he doesn't correct that she loses more respect for him and so feels more justified in being fat and angry...and the cycle continues.
In fact I think a lot of bad female behavior is a manifestation of a secret anxiety of low value, the feeling they don't deserve it so they try to sabotage what's around them. If you get into the Secret World girls will tell you this, although all you have to do is read HuffPo or any women's magazine to learn that American women have extensive (and marketable-to) anxiety about their looks and lifestyle.