Biologist: 4 years in China, previous to this a year in Brazil, couple years in Mexico, Japan, Korea... my twenties have been spent mostly abroad. ![[Image: smile.gif]](https://rooshvforum.network/images/smilies/smile.gif)
Beyond Borders: Its not that I'm negative, I'm very happy to be back in the West, basically life on easy mode here and with the wife, I get to dial it back to super-easy. This guy always accuses me of being 'VERY LUCKY' but its all force baby, I'm with obiwan, there's no such thing as luck, you've got to make your own luck in this world.
I went through a load of broads, I wanted girls and when I figured out that foreign women were easier I started getting insane amounts of dates. I told him this 10 years ago and he has written me at least 1 email a day ever since on his slow decline down to the bottom. I can't really tell him to get lost or anything as I've known him since we were teenagers but he is consistently negative and prefers to do nothing about his situation. He's also the guy who taught me how to dance, now he thinks its 'just silliness'.. Apparently, now suicidal... maybe I'm a frustrating person to be around, I'm always up.
My problem is I have a helper personality... there's a specific word for it that I can't recall. Anyway, I might be annoying or whatever but I'm in no way a braggart, when I tell people about life abroad, I frame it in a way that it can be feasible for them with only a little effort on their part. Maybe you won't waste your breath on others and maybe you think others have something to teach... but it pains me personally to do that, I have to help others or I'll explode.
I consider the people in my network very valuable and the more resources I can offer, the stronger they can become. The 3rd world taught me the importance of creating a solid network. You need a go to guy for everything and its important that if you come across some excess resources, you pass them on as quickly as possible. If everyone in the network is doing well, then you've created a nice safety net. The easiest things for me to locate are friends, jobs and women, and right now I have an excess of women, so I guess you could say I overload the network with that stuff.
What goes around comes around, and when I was in the hospital (this last time) I had about 10 people show up, pay for x-rays, hospital bed and medicines, people brought me food and made sure my wife was taken care of and that I had 2 guys on each shoulder to help me get around the hospital. It was very nice and my wife kept telling me while I was disappearing into the darkness "See how many people care about you? We're all here with you, You can't leave us now!". Without my wife, I would be dead, without my friends, I'd be jobless, without the PUA forums, I wouldn't be who I am today and without you guys I wouldn't have the opportunities I do in Canada right now.
I believe what made the West strong at one point is that we were all a 'network' and we've really really lost that. People are so cold here, I ran into a teacher in the mall yesterday with a Chinese wife. He used to teach in Dalian but man what an unfriendly bastard. I had a bunch of questions for him about bringing his wife back but he clearly wasn't interested. An absolutely huge missed opportunity for him to connect up to valuable resources. I find most people in the world are the same way. Why is it that I AM always the one pulling out my phone or asking to meetup?!?! People usually describe me as warm. I think it comes from learning game but every time I meet someone, I try and walk away with a phone number or an email. You'd be blown away by the number of people I meet who have NO OTHER FRIENDS. So I do my best to put them in touch with the rest of the network and make their lives better.
I guess that's what makes me happy, I like seeing others do well.
Apologies for rambling, I learn more about myself with each new post.
Is there a Toronto meetup happening or what?
Beyond Borders: Its not that I'm negative, I'm very happy to be back in the West, basically life on easy mode here and with the wife, I get to dial it back to super-easy. This guy always accuses me of being 'VERY LUCKY' but its all force baby, I'm with obiwan, there's no such thing as luck, you've got to make your own luck in this world.
I went through a load of broads, I wanted girls and when I figured out that foreign women were easier I started getting insane amounts of dates. I told him this 10 years ago and he has written me at least 1 email a day ever since on his slow decline down to the bottom. I can't really tell him to get lost or anything as I've known him since we were teenagers but he is consistently negative and prefers to do nothing about his situation. He's also the guy who taught me how to dance, now he thinks its 'just silliness'.. Apparently, now suicidal... maybe I'm a frustrating person to be around, I'm always up.
My problem is I have a helper personality... there's a specific word for it that I can't recall. Anyway, I might be annoying or whatever but I'm in no way a braggart, when I tell people about life abroad, I frame it in a way that it can be feasible for them with only a little effort on their part. Maybe you won't waste your breath on others and maybe you think others have something to teach... but it pains me personally to do that, I have to help others or I'll explode.
I consider the people in my network very valuable and the more resources I can offer, the stronger they can become. The 3rd world taught me the importance of creating a solid network. You need a go to guy for everything and its important that if you come across some excess resources, you pass them on as quickly as possible. If everyone in the network is doing well, then you've created a nice safety net. The easiest things for me to locate are friends, jobs and women, and right now I have an excess of women, so I guess you could say I overload the network with that stuff.
What goes around comes around, and when I was in the hospital (this last time) I had about 10 people show up, pay for x-rays, hospital bed and medicines, people brought me food and made sure my wife was taken care of and that I had 2 guys on each shoulder to help me get around the hospital. It was very nice and my wife kept telling me while I was disappearing into the darkness "See how many people care about you? We're all here with you, You can't leave us now!". Without my wife, I would be dead, without my friends, I'd be jobless, without the PUA forums, I wouldn't be who I am today and without you guys I wouldn't have the opportunities I do in Canada right now.
I believe what made the West strong at one point is that we were all a 'network' and we've really really lost that. People are so cold here, I ran into a teacher in the mall yesterday with a Chinese wife. He used to teach in Dalian but man what an unfriendly bastard. I had a bunch of questions for him about bringing his wife back but he clearly wasn't interested. An absolutely huge missed opportunity for him to connect up to valuable resources. I find most people in the world are the same way. Why is it that I AM always the one pulling out my phone or asking to meetup?!?! People usually describe me as warm. I think it comes from learning game but every time I meet someone, I try and walk away with a phone number or an email. You'd be blown away by the number of people I meet who have NO OTHER FRIENDS. So I do my best to put them in touch with the rest of the network and make their lives better.
I guess that's what makes me happy, I like seeing others do well.
Apologies for rambling, I learn more about myself with each new post.
Is there a Toronto meetup happening or what?