1. Good start to a date. Sounds like fun.
2. She wants to go to your place good news......your getting laid!. You're a bit stressed, but that is totally understandable. Just keep saying to yourself "As long as i'm having fun it doesn't matter what happens"
3. She's inviting you into the shower. All is going fantastic..... the condoms is .....eh. kinda weird. she is already in the bag. That kind of thing can set someone off.
4. you got nervous. It's your first time. keep repeating in your head. "As long as i'm having fun it doesn't matter what happens". I know that's really hard but it will work. People are saying porn addiction, but to me, i think you are just really nervous. It happens experience numbs you to this.
5. Eh ya she got uncomfortable. a possible solution is just playing around that night then letting her sleep over. This will allow her to be really comfortable with you, and when you wake up next to her in the morning sex will be easier. you aren't as stressed, and you are always hard in the morning. I say this because I've pulled a girl into bed, but when it came down to it.. I got a no. Slept. Woke up, and then sex in the morning was no issue. This is for a girl not making a decicion because she is drunk, but making the decicion because she is nervouse/ you don't have enough comfort with her. (I am not saying this is a good method i'm saying I've just done this before).
6. You say she had the upper hand in the relationship the whole way. This is in your mind, but not really an issue when a girl wants to fuck you so much. Beta guys get laid.....My younger self is living proof. it doesn't happen very often, but sometimes you get lucky (like you did with this girl to some degree) and it is a very very easy lay. .....If you are beta and you get laid, it still counts as sex......
7. dick move not offering her a ride from the middle of nowhere. Sometimes I think of it from this perspective: If i wanted to see a buddy of mine 100k away, i would not drive to pick him up, BUT if he was stuck at my place, I would drive a buddy back to his house if he really was stuck. She was stuck. It was your fault . Drive her.
8. You drove her. fantastic. This whole interaction is a write off. Shit happens.
9. You ditched her in town......I'm a bit harsh here but. You picked up a girl. You freaked out. You caused the problem because you felt like not being able to sexually perform wasn't "alpha" and you lost face. This is your problem. Fix it. Drive her home. It's over. It's your fault. We all make mistakes. Tomorrow is a new day.
Being alpha is great, but Sex is sex if it's your first lay. If being beta got you laid for your first time, in my opinion, you should not consider it a total failure. Yes being alpha is important for a long and healthy lifestyle, mental health, and being a well rounded guy. You have to get out of your head.
If you learned anything, you did well. Don't repeat mistakes and that makes every night a success.
Don't bother with her after this. You will feel the need to call her and make it up, but what is done is done. Leave it in my opinion. There are many more fresh clean experiences that don't involve someone who you already had an answered relationship with.
2. She wants to go to your place good news......your getting laid!. You're a bit stressed, but that is totally understandable. Just keep saying to yourself "As long as i'm having fun it doesn't matter what happens"
3. She's inviting you into the shower. All is going fantastic..... the condoms is .....eh. kinda weird. she is already in the bag. That kind of thing can set someone off.
4. you got nervous. It's your first time. keep repeating in your head. "As long as i'm having fun it doesn't matter what happens". I know that's really hard but it will work. People are saying porn addiction, but to me, i think you are just really nervous. It happens experience numbs you to this.
5. Eh ya she got uncomfortable. a possible solution is just playing around that night then letting her sleep over. This will allow her to be really comfortable with you, and when you wake up next to her in the morning sex will be easier. you aren't as stressed, and you are always hard in the morning. I say this because I've pulled a girl into bed, but when it came down to it.. I got a no. Slept. Woke up, and then sex in the morning was no issue. This is for a girl not making a decicion because she is drunk, but making the decicion because she is nervouse/ you don't have enough comfort with her. (I am not saying this is a good method i'm saying I've just done this before).
6. You say she had the upper hand in the relationship the whole way. This is in your mind, but not really an issue when a girl wants to fuck you so much. Beta guys get laid.....My younger self is living proof. it doesn't happen very often, but sometimes you get lucky (like you did with this girl to some degree) and it is a very very easy lay. .....If you are beta and you get laid, it still counts as sex......
7. dick move not offering her a ride from the middle of nowhere. Sometimes I think of it from this perspective: If i wanted to see a buddy of mine 100k away, i would not drive to pick him up, BUT if he was stuck at my place, I would drive a buddy back to his house if he really was stuck. She was stuck. It was your fault . Drive her.
8. You drove her. fantastic. This whole interaction is a write off. Shit happens.
9. You ditched her in town......I'm a bit harsh here but. You picked up a girl. You freaked out. You caused the problem because you felt like not being able to sexually perform wasn't "alpha" and you lost face. This is your problem. Fix it. Drive her home. It's over. It's your fault. We all make mistakes. Tomorrow is a new day.
Being alpha is great, but Sex is sex if it's your first lay. If being beta got you laid for your first time, in my opinion, you should not consider it a total failure. Yes being alpha is important for a long and healthy lifestyle, mental health, and being a well rounded guy. You have to get out of your head.
If you learned anything, you did well. Don't repeat mistakes and that makes every night a success.
Don't bother with her after this. You will feel the need to call her and make it up, but what is done is done. Leave it in my opinion. There are many more fresh clean experiences that don't involve someone who you already had an answered relationship with.
If you can't do any better, you've settled. --me--