Quote: (05-19-2014 03:31 PM)Flint Wrote:
What are your experiences with using a false time constraint (FTC) when cold approaching during the day?
It seems to a very old PUA technique, but hasn't been discussed exhaustingly here, so I'm interested in your views on it.
Quick definition of the FTC: A statement you make when opening a girl to communicate that you will not be able to remain long, reassuring her that you will not take up too much of their time.
Example: "Excuse, I actually need to get back to work and only got a minute left. But I just saw you over there and wanted to introduce myself/say hi... blabla"
I haven't used this in a while but I seem to remember that my chances of getting the number were slightly higher when I resorted to a FTC during the approach.
I like what it communicates:
1) Since you make clear from the very beginning that you only got a minute, you likely don't appear as a random "creepy" guy who might drag her into a long, uncomfortable conversation. This might loosen up your target and ease the conversation.
2) You present yourself as a man who has an interesting and busy life. When you tell her you don't have much time for the conversation, you create a feeling of scarcity, which can make your presence more valuable for her.
What is your stance on this? Are FTCs great, overrated or just bullshit?
I think that they're bad because they prevent insta-dates. I've cockblocked myself by setting time parameters; there have been approaches where I had great kino, great momentum, and a dorm room only ten minutes away, but my "appointment in five minutes" made it impossible for me to bounce the girl and get a SDL.