There are two kinds of honesty: emotional honesty and factual honesty. Emotional honesty is very helpful in dealing with women; factual honesty is a handicap.
The problem with most beta males is that they are fanatically factually honest which buys them nothing but contempt from women who could not possibly give less of a shit about factual truth; but they are afraid to let their emotions show, which buys them more contempt.
The perfect player is an effortless liar in all that comes to fact but who is emotionally honest or "present". That does not mean someone who is "emotional" in the conventional sense -- very often the basic emotional state of a man is a vast indifference. Betas hide their indifference; alphas and naturals are shameless and let it show. Betas also hide their enthusiasms when they do strike them; alphas and naturals always display them.
When a woman tells a guy "just be yourself" she means it -- women are horrified and fascinated by men who are relaxed enough to be emotionally honest in every context. Very few men are. Women are shameless liars, but men are usually uptight and emotionally dishonest because they are ashamed both of their basic cool indifference and their occasional hot enthusiasms.
The problem with most beta males is that they are fanatically factually honest which buys them nothing but contempt from women who could not possibly give less of a shit about factual truth; but they are afraid to let their emotions show, which buys them more contempt.
The perfect player is an effortless liar in all that comes to fact but who is emotionally honest or "present". That does not mean someone who is "emotional" in the conventional sense -- very often the basic emotional state of a man is a vast indifference. Betas hide their indifference; alphas and naturals are shameless and let it show. Betas also hide their enthusiasms when they do strike them; alphas and naturals always display them.
When a woman tells a guy "just be yourself" she means it -- women are horrified and fascinated by men who are relaxed enough to be emotionally honest in every context. Very few men are. Women are shameless liars, but men are usually uptight and emotionally dishonest because they are ashamed both of their basic cool indifference and their occasional hot enthusiasms.
same old shit, sixes and sevens Shaft...