Quote: (03-27-2014 11:19 AM)tawillionaire Wrote:
I meant developing social skills as in developing game. I don't go out to bars and spend money on drinks to get better at talking to my fellow men.
So you're saying you would engage the group as a whole and include the guys in conversation? Makes sense, then you can play it off like you're just a dude looking to have fun. How do you deal with hostility from other guys?
I get where you're coming from… because I was there, but you really gotta get over it (this will take some mindfuckery on your part). Don't think of it as coming out of your cave to learn and then retreating back after you're done. It's a really bad value taking mindset. When you go out unless you are already really good and have a method that gets you success, it's better to just be cool and friendly. Also realize that the game never ends. There's always room to keep improving.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yNBXk6sUYeQ
Don't be playing… you are a dude looking to have fun. If you are just out there to have a good time then you can never have a bad night. The only thing you can control is how much fun you are having. You can't control people's reactions and you can't control whether other people like you. You can however, control yourself. So don't sweat stuff you can't control. Eg. if you are going out to work on escalation, don't hope to get a make out that night, this is sure to leave you feeling bad most of the time starting out. Instead set the goal as "I'm gonna try to make out with every girl I talk to who I think is down."
Engage the whole group because you don't give a fuck. You don't value the girls more than the guys. They are all just there to pump you up and help you have fun. If your target girl happens to take a shine to you, it's icing on the cake. Then you move in using your knowledge of game.
Venue selection is important to. Venues full of cool people are usually friendlier than those full of uncool people who tend to live in scarcity and insecurity.