Wow, thank you all for the overwhelmingly great responses. Definitely true that daygame > online. Truly love this forum.
I was doing a brief tally and I would say that around 30% of the women who I go on first dates with want to see me again (i.e. respond back to my texts and initially want to see me again). Out of that 30%, a few more flake over time haha.
Anyways, I'l add more detail from my previous post since I was a little vague and might also post about this in another thread to get more advice. Thinking about my date game over the past few days and I feel like the following are my biggest hurdles:
1) The women always seem to want to ask the basic questions (where did you grow up, what do you do for fun, what do you read for books, any pets, etc.) and I get caught up in just having a basic conversation the entire time. Anytime I do bring up a more intimate/riskier/interesting question, the girl doesn't seem to have any response. And then they gear the conversation back into basic shit again and ask shit like "what's my favorite color?" right after I attempt to make the conversation more interesting. To make matters worse, almost ALL of the girls I've been on dates with are the most basic women ever - there's literally nothing interesting about their lives except for "hanging out with their friends", "watching netflix", and "going out for brunch and margaritas". It's insanely hard to keep a conversation going when that's all I have to work with.....And then at the end of the date they tell me how there was "no connection"
2) Adding onto my point from above, when I do try to make the conversation more interesting, then sometimes they either get 1) weirded out or 2) just don't feel comfortable with answering it.
My solution to all of this: I need to lead and force the conversation to get more intimate/sexual and most importantly, absolutely stay away from basic topics and start asking more intimate questions that trigger and play around with her emotions. Even if she tries to stray away from those questions, continually lead her into them.
Examples:
What are you afraid of? (making her think of the last time she was afraid)
What is your most treasured memory? (triggering positive emotion)
What is your most terrible memory? (triggering negative emotion)
How close are you to your family? (triggering family emotions)
What's the most embarrassing thing you've done (triggering another emotion)
etc.
The only way to get a connection is through hitting her emotions, not through logical talk.
Thoughts? And additional advice?
I was doing a brief tally and I would say that around 30% of the women who I go on first dates with want to see me again (i.e. respond back to my texts and initially want to see me again). Out of that 30%, a few more flake over time haha.
Anyways, I'l add more detail from my previous post since I was a little vague and might also post about this in another thread to get more advice. Thinking about my date game over the past few days and I feel like the following are my biggest hurdles:
1) The women always seem to want to ask the basic questions (where did you grow up, what do you do for fun, what do you read for books, any pets, etc.) and I get caught up in just having a basic conversation the entire time. Anytime I do bring up a more intimate/riskier/interesting question, the girl doesn't seem to have any response. And then they gear the conversation back into basic shit again and ask shit like "what's my favorite color?" right after I attempt to make the conversation more interesting. To make matters worse, almost ALL of the girls I've been on dates with are the most basic women ever - there's literally nothing interesting about their lives except for "hanging out with their friends", "watching netflix", and "going out for brunch and margaritas". It's insanely hard to keep a conversation going when that's all I have to work with.....And then at the end of the date they tell me how there was "no connection"
2) Adding onto my point from above, when I do try to make the conversation more interesting, then sometimes they either get 1) weirded out or 2) just don't feel comfortable with answering it.
My solution to all of this: I need to lead and force the conversation to get more intimate/sexual and most importantly, absolutely stay away from basic topics and start asking more intimate questions that trigger and play around with her emotions. Even if she tries to stray away from those questions, continually lead her into them.
Examples:
What are you afraid of? (making her think of the last time she was afraid)
What is your most treasured memory? (triggering positive emotion)
What is your most terrible memory? (triggering negative emotion)
How close are you to your family? (triggering family emotions)
What's the most embarrassing thing you've done (triggering another emotion)
etc.
The only way to get a connection is through hitting her emotions, not through logical talk.
Thoughts? And additional advice?