Yeah - I manage to do this from time to time. Helps to have interesting facts and brainteasers to hand.
For instance - I often explain to girls than women on average are smarter than men.
This gets them nodding along like I am a blue-pill beta provider.
Then I say that all the geniuses throughout history have been men.
This confuses them - and they ask why I say that? Since I just said women - on average - are smarter than men.
I then go on to explain the differences in the spread/extremes of intelligence between men and women. Women's intelligence spreads narrowly around a certain IQ point.
And then position might be a little bit higher than the average for men.
But the key difference is that the IQ distribution curve for men is alot wider than for women. It means we have more dumb people - but it also means we have all the geniuses.
Which is why women interested in female accomplishments study women's studies.
And why men interested in male accomplishments study men's studies - otherwise known as history.
The above is a line I saw as the signature to a forum post the other day - and I am going to add it the next time I am trying to tease women about the differences between men and women.
Sometimes - if I am talkinging to a hardcore feminist - I will sometimes drop in a sneaky question to try and catch them out. It has worked every time I have used it.
I say to them - "A friend asked me this brainteaser but I can't work it out. Can you help?"
"A successful lawyer living in New York has a brother who is a doctor living in Los Angeles. But the brother who is a doctor living in Los Angeles doesn't have a brother who is a lawyer living in New York."
I ask the feminist if she can figure out how that could be the case?
They always give up.
I then put on a shit-eating grin, and say:
"Shit - I figured it out. The successful lawyer in New York is a woman."
It is a clever way of revealing the subconscious sexist prejudices that even self-declared feminists have.
As for manipulating conversations and getting what you want. A magician that I know used to be a hustler and scam artist. He recommened to me a particular book on 'door to door selling' which covers alot of the clever conversational gambits which can be used to getting what you want from somebody.
I bought the book - but never got round to reading it. The book is round at a different house - so I can't give the exact title.
Still - I mention this because these strategies are effective. And much better than the NLP mystic woo-woo that people try and promote.
I am not an expert in this field but it is worth investigating.
One of the techniques these people use is the 'Yes ladder'. You ask a bunch of questions that can only really be answered yes.
"You having a good time?"
Yes
"Have you been here before?"
Yes
"Have you and your friend known each other a long time?"
Yes
"Are you drinking a martini?"
Yes
"It is nearly empty - Can I get you another one?"
Yes
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That last question is the real reason for the series of build up questions. You condition a chick into repeatedly saying yes. And she is much more likely to say yes to the question you sneak in at the end.
These are the techniques that salesmen are taught.
Another technique is to raise a subject which indirectly gets the girls asking a follow-up question - which you can then use to reveal a piece of interesting information. Doing it indirectly - makes it appear less boastful - and that there are other aspects of your life just as interesting.
But that is just common sense really. And something most guys instinctively understand when interacting with people.
Still - if you want to learn about mainipulating conversations to get what you want. You should look into the techniques used by cold sellers.
Actually - thinking about it some more. I overlooked something. There is a whole field of magic devoted to manipulating conversations. It is the techniques used by 'psychics' as a way of apparently demonstrating supernatural abilities.
The key concept is 'Cold Reading'. It is a series of techniques that psychics use to apparently show that they know more than really do about somebody. Even information (about dead relatives and so on) - that they would have no way of knowing about it.
I am very familiar with the techniques used in this area. But I don't specialise in this type of magic - so it is not a passion of mine.
Still - this is supposed to be the best book written on the subject:
http://www.thecoldreadingbook.com/ [Derren Brown, James Randi and Martin Gardner all praise this book]
It may only be of interest to magicians though. I say that because magic books can be very expensive - so I wouldn't want you to spend money on something that you wouldn't fully understand or enjoy.
Derren Brown is pretty much the best magician in the world at the moment. And here he is in a conversation with Richard Dawkins explaining the principles of cold reading. It is well worth checking it out:
These are just examples of how magicians can manipulate conversations to appear psychic. It is an interesting subject in its own right. But I am not sure how useful this sort of thinking would be in 'gaming' women. That is a whole other question.
For instance - I often explain to girls than women on average are smarter than men.
This gets them nodding along like I am a blue-pill beta provider.
Then I say that all the geniuses throughout history have been men.
This confuses them - and they ask why I say that? Since I just said women - on average - are smarter than men.
I then go on to explain the differences in the spread/extremes of intelligence between men and women. Women's intelligence spreads narrowly around a certain IQ point.
And then position might be a little bit higher than the average for men.
But the key difference is that the IQ distribution curve for men is alot wider than for women. It means we have more dumb people - but it also means we have all the geniuses.
Which is why women interested in female accomplishments study women's studies.
And why men interested in male accomplishments study men's studies - otherwise known as history.
The above is a line I saw as the signature to a forum post the other day - and I am going to add it the next time I am trying to tease women about the differences between men and women.
Sometimes - if I am talkinging to a hardcore feminist - I will sometimes drop in a sneaky question to try and catch them out. It has worked every time I have used it.
I say to them - "A friend asked me this brainteaser but I can't work it out. Can you help?"
"A successful lawyer living in New York has a brother who is a doctor living in Los Angeles. But the brother who is a doctor living in Los Angeles doesn't have a brother who is a lawyer living in New York."
I ask the feminist if she can figure out how that could be the case?
They always give up.
I then put on a shit-eating grin, and say:
"Shit - I figured it out. The successful lawyer in New York is a woman."
It is a clever way of revealing the subconscious sexist prejudices that even self-declared feminists have.
As for manipulating conversations and getting what you want. A magician that I know used to be a hustler and scam artist. He recommened to me a particular book on 'door to door selling' which covers alot of the clever conversational gambits which can be used to getting what you want from somebody.
I bought the book - but never got round to reading it. The book is round at a different house - so I can't give the exact title.
Still - I mention this because these strategies are effective. And much better than the NLP mystic woo-woo that people try and promote.
I am not an expert in this field but it is worth investigating.
One of the techniques these people use is the 'Yes ladder'. You ask a bunch of questions that can only really be answered yes.
"You having a good time?"
Yes
"Have you been here before?"
Yes
"Have you and your friend known each other a long time?"
Yes
"Are you drinking a martini?"
Yes
"It is nearly empty - Can I get you another one?"
Yes
--------------
That last question is the real reason for the series of build up questions. You condition a chick into repeatedly saying yes. And she is much more likely to say yes to the question you sneak in at the end.
These are the techniques that salesmen are taught.
Another technique is to raise a subject which indirectly gets the girls asking a follow-up question - which you can then use to reveal a piece of interesting information. Doing it indirectly - makes it appear less boastful - and that there are other aspects of your life just as interesting.
But that is just common sense really. And something most guys instinctively understand when interacting with people.
Still - if you want to learn about mainipulating conversations to get what you want. You should look into the techniques used by cold sellers.
Actually - thinking about it some more. I overlooked something. There is a whole field of magic devoted to manipulating conversations. It is the techniques used by 'psychics' as a way of apparently demonstrating supernatural abilities.
The key concept is 'Cold Reading'. It is a series of techniques that psychics use to apparently show that they know more than really do about somebody. Even information (about dead relatives and so on) - that they would have no way of knowing about it.
I am very familiar with the techniques used in this area. But I don't specialise in this type of magic - so it is not a passion of mine.
Still - this is supposed to be the best book written on the subject:
http://www.thecoldreadingbook.com/ [Derren Brown, James Randi and Martin Gardner all praise this book]
It may only be of interest to magicians though. I say that because magic books can be very expensive - so I wouldn't want you to spend money on something that you wouldn't fully understand or enjoy.
Derren Brown is pretty much the best magician in the world at the moment. And here he is in a conversation with Richard Dawkins explaining the principles of cold reading. It is well worth checking it out:
These are just examples of how magicians can manipulate conversations to appear psychic. It is an interesting subject in its own right. But I am not sure how useful this sort of thinking would be in 'gaming' women. That is a whole other question.