This thread on Metafilter, which is feminist central, caught my eye:
http://ask.metafilter.com/257521/how-to-...after-rape
Girl gets raped. She contacts a guy friend by email and tells him about it. He says its "too sensitive" a topic for him, and he freezes her out.
I thought about this ... And I think this guy's reaction is pretty understandable. He was refusing to be this girl's emotional tampon. I think guys understand on a primal level that it is somehow emasculating to be a sounding board when a woman wants to talk about a rape. There's something diminishing and humiliating for a guy to have to console a woman in the wake of another guy's sexual predations. It's basically functioning as a girlfriend.
Notice, in that thread, that some people are speculating that he must have raped someone in the past for him to be so cold to her.
http://ask.metafilter.com/257521/how-to-...after-rape
Girl gets raped. She contacts a guy friend by email and tells him about it. He says its "too sensitive" a topic for him, and he freezes her out.
I thought about this ... And I think this guy's reaction is pretty understandable. He was refusing to be this girl's emotional tampon. I think guys understand on a primal level that it is somehow emasculating to be a sounding board when a woman wants to talk about a rape. There's something diminishing and humiliating for a guy to have to console a woman in the wake of another guy's sexual predations. It's basically functioning as a girlfriend.
Notice, in that thread, that some people are speculating that he must have raped someone in the past for him to be so cold to her.