How often do girls expect more from guys after sex? What determines it? Can we
02-17-2014, 09:30 PM
One time a girl in Colombia told me that 60% of the time, the guy does not call after sex.. She said she was surprised I wanted to meet up with her again. I was surprised at this crazy statistics. 60% of guys just hit it and quit it!! She was sexy, too, so it blew my mind. I mean why not at least repeat once or twice? 60%!!*
For those of us are not stone-cold players, it's tough to "pump and dump" a girl in a situation where she really expected things to lead at least.. somewhere.. especially considering that she made things so nice and easy for me when she could have been a major bitch like many other girls are. Still, though, most of us are not looking for things to get too serious too quickly and sometimes you just have better things to do after banging a girl for the first time than continue seeing her. What factors determine how likely a girl is to expect you to continue hooking up?
Local culture? i.e. Ukraine vs. Iceland
Timing of first sex? i.e. 4th date vs. ONS
Contents of interactions? i.e. Cocky/joking demeanor vs. laying it on thick in terms of future dating plans, feelings, emotions, etc. (I've never done this but know some guys do.. I consider it pretty cruel when guys do this and it's all bullshit.. plus it makes it harder for the rest of us when girls have serious bitch shields/trust issues)
Obviously, if a girl goes home with me the first night we meet (especially if I'm a bit out of her league), she probably knows there's a pretty good chance she is not going to see me again and I don't feel bad leaving it as is. But I'm more interested in the nuanced cases.. like getting laid on a 2nd or 3rd date off of okcupid, or something like that.
What can a guy do to lower expectations of things developing without lowering his odds of getting laid?
* Footnote: It might have something to do with many guys in Colombia having to pay for motels to get laid and not having their own places.. their marginal cost of a repeat lay would be higher than mine was. Still, though.
For those of us are not stone-cold players, it's tough to "pump and dump" a girl in a situation where she really expected things to lead at least.. somewhere.. especially considering that she made things so nice and easy for me when she could have been a major bitch like many other girls are. Still, though, most of us are not looking for things to get too serious too quickly and sometimes you just have better things to do after banging a girl for the first time than continue seeing her. What factors determine how likely a girl is to expect you to continue hooking up?
Local culture? i.e. Ukraine vs. Iceland
Timing of first sex? i.e. 4th date vs. ONS
Contents of interactions? i.e. Cocky/joking demeanor vs. laying it on thick in terms of future dating plans, feelings, emotions, etc. (I've never done this but know some guys do.. I consider it pretty cruel when guys do this and it's all bullshit.. plus it makes it harder for the rest of us when girls have serious bitch shields/trust issues)
Obviously, if a girl goes home with me the first night we meet (especially if I'm a bit out of her league), she probably knows there's a pretty good chance she is not going to see me again and I don't feel bad leaving it as is. But I'm more interested in the nuanced cases.. like getting laid on a 2nd or 3rd date off of okcupid, or something like that.
What can a guy do to lower expectations of things developing without lowering his odds of getting laid?
* Footnote: It might have something to do with many guys in Colombia having to pay for motels to get laid and not having their own places.. their marginal cost of a repeat lay would be higher than mine was. Still, though.