Hey guys,
I would like to get some opinions about imagining worst case scenarios instead of best-case scenarios when You approach a girl.
I always strongly believed that it makes sense to imagine how it will feel to succeed with anything that needs will power or where I have to overcome anxieties or hassle. Roosh wrote in DayBang another view point.
I try to write it down in my own words and extend it a little bit:
If you imagine best case scenarios it will take will power from you because your mind thinks that you already achieved it.
Note me: It works the same when You tell somebody of something. So if you have a big business project and you will tell your buddies that You will be soon pretty rich and successful it feels like you already achieved it and it becomes more "neutral" and less important. http://www.ted.com/talks/derek_sivers_ke...rself.html
If you imagine worst case scenarios your mind will accept these scenarios and go from there. So if you assume that the girl will reject you on a tough way You will accept it and don´t fear it anymore.
Note me: A similar thought I found on the book "How to stop worrying and start living" from Dale Carnegie. => If you get cancer, accept that you will die and go from there.
Now my problem is: Isn´t that pure pessimism? Somewhere it feels like a pretty screwed up mindset. If I follow the advice I have to think the whole day, how everybody hates me, how I go broke and every time I get a flu I will die.
Most NLP guys advice the opposite but sure it sells better if customer feels good after they bought. In sports every coach has the opinion that you should visualize positive and these guys get paid for results. I never heared them saying "now imagine how you jump in the air and kick the ball in the wrong goal! After that feel how everybody hates You and your country is ashamed of You".
What do you think of that? Did I miss the point?
I would like to get some opinions about imagining worst case scenarios instead of best-case scenarios when You approach a girl.
I always strongly believed that it makes sense to imagine how it will feel to succeed with anything that needs will power or where I have to overcome anxieties or hassle. Roosh wrote in DayBang another view point.
I try to write it down in my own words and extend it a little bit:
If you imagine best case scenarios it will take will power from you because your mind thinks that you already achieved it.
Note me: It works the same when You tell somebody of something. So if you have a big business project and you will tell your buddies that You will be soon pretty rich and successful it feels like you already achieved it and it becomes more "neutral" and less important. http://www.ted.com/talks/derek_sivers_ke...rself.html
If you imagine worst case scenarios your mind will accept these scenarios and go from there. So if you assume that the girl will reject you on a tough way You will accept it and don´t fear it anymore.
Note me: A similar thought I found on the book "How to stop worrying and start living" from Dale Carnegie. => If you get cancer, accept that you will die and go from there.
Now my problem is: Isn´t that pure pessimism? Somewhere it feels like a pretty screwed up mindset. If I follow the advice I have to think the whole day, how everybody hates me, how I go broke and every time I get a flu I will die.
Most NLP guys advice the opposite but sure it sells better if customer feels good after they bought. In sports every coach has the opinion that you should visualize positive and these guys get paid for results. I never heared them saying "now imagine how you jump in the air and kick the ball in the wrong goal! After that feel how everybody hates You and your country is ashamed of You".
What do you think of that? Did I miss the point?