Quote: (10-07-2013 02:35 AM)Fredster Wrote:
Quote: (10-05-2013 09:09 PM)OGNorCal707 Wrote:
The proper move would have been to checked her straight out the gate, and then fired her ass when she continued to pull that bullshit.
What is the proper way to check her straight out the gate and fire her ass without making her going all crazy and emotional or looking needy or like it affected me ?
I have trouble doing this.
Well Fredster I am no expert in this realm, but I will give you some feedback. The way I would "check" a woman who was throwing obvious shit tests at me, talking about other men, would probably go something a little like this...
"Hey I don't appreciate you talking about other guys in front of me, you can save that shit for when you gossip with your girlfriends. I don't go around talking about how hot the girl at the coffee shop was, or comparing you to other women. It's disrespectful, and I won't tolerate any more of it."
If she gets all crazy and emotional, I'd probably tell her, "I don't need to deal with this right now, I'm leaving..."
There is a decent chance, if your chick is anything like my ex, a seriously cold, calculating, cunning, conniving, manipulative bitch, she'll try to flip it around on you, and try to accuse you of "tripping out" and being insecure and petty. If that happens, I would just maintain the strong frame, and assert that she's being disrespectful and you won't tolerate it.
Someone earlier in the thread mentioned that you may want to take in consideration how long you've been with a chick and the nature of your relationship. I've had fuck buddies where we'd be hanging out and commenting on the opposite sex, and I didn't really care or take it as a big deal, because we weren't exclusive and were just "casually" seeing each other.
On the other hand when my ex who I dated for 8 months, who proclaimed her love for me, and constantly try to reaffirm the exclusiveness of our relationship, would do that shit, it was blatant disrespect, and I should have fired her ass for it long before I did.
Women are very good at getting away with "slick" shit, they word it and say it in such a way that it seems innocent enough, but in reality it's meant to be a shit test, and to get under your skin, and into your head.