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(08-21-2013 08:32 PM)Plutoman Wrote:  

I meet guys all over. I'm pretty social overall now. Often times it's simply, "hey man, let's get a drink and continue our conversation later". If you're just chill and cool a guy will be for it. Some guys will not, some will be a little over eager (you can tell they don't have many friends - that's not necessarily a sign against them, just that they need to get out a bit).

Usually it's just being social and getting into a very interesting conversation. I have a couple buddies I play video games with, the rest, I go out and hang with at coffee shops/etc, grab a drink, etc, more commonplace things. Drawing a comparison to an instant date, chillin with a guy that you've got a good vibe with, just be like, "hey, I'm going to grab a drink and some food, you want to join?" I find that's the best way to build a relationship with a guy. You feel a bit more of a bond, and then it's less weird to be like, "hey, what's your number."

Yeah I'll go to dinner with a buddy and what not. Couldn't care less about what other people may think.


People really appreciate it when you take the initiative to interact with them. Everyone wants some social interaction in their lives, but often they have insecurities about just asking someone if they want to hang out. So by taking the bold step, people will think highly of you. Furthermore, you'll stand out if you're the one that gets people to start interacting with one another in a group setting. This is something that really hit home with me during my travels. I'd meet other travelers and just start talking to them and what not, and the reactions were almost always hugely positive. Here were people alone on the road, unsure of what lies in the future and in a foreign land, and just offering your company was the greatest gift I could've given to them. Not "me" specifically, but anyone just trying to be friendly. IN this day and age where everyone is becoming colder, being friendly is being bold, and fortune favors the bold.