The best writing on this subject is by Stagetwo in his article, 'Why do women flake? And how should we respond?'
An extract:-
How should we respond to her flaking?
To even ask yourself whether her excuse is true or not is misguided. Most likely it is not true. But whether it is true or not, it functions as a test either way: your response will define her attraction to you.
If you show you assume it’s true, you’re beta: naive.
If you show you assume it’s not true, you’re beta: insecure.
What’s beta in either case is caring whether it’s true.
Whole article here: http://stagetwo.wordpress.com/2009/01/27...e-respond/
An extract:-
How should we respond to her flaking?
To even ask yourself whether her excuse is true or not is misguided. Most likely it is not true. But whether it is true or not, it functions as a test either way: your response will define her attraction to you.
If you show you assume it’s true, you’re beta: naive.
If you show you assume it’s not true, you’re beta: insecure.
What’s beta in either case is caring whether it’s true.
Whole article here: http://stagetwo.wordpress.com/2009/01/27...e-respond/