[AneroidOcean]

(06-13-2013 08:23 AM)MikeinMKE Wrote:  

This happened about a year ago as well - I've had two dates that I thought went well. Multiple venue changes, smoke breaks, makeout sessions on both. Mutual touching - even held hands on one (girl initiated while I was driving). Did not close either one do to logistics.

Both answered my text two days later positively: "lots of fun lets do it again" but then both went cold these last two days when setting next date. I dont usually pursue in these situations but since they both went seemingly so well I jokingly followed up with both and coaxed responses that while a good time was had, I was "too pushy" / "a little aggressive". I responded "sorry I'm a man - seemed like you were into it" and they both waffled. Both seem dead now.

Obviously better to be aggressive than not - I got laid twice the week before and then again with one of last weeks girls a couple of nights ago. But I am worried that I'm bad at reading body language - do girls let you make out with them and shit if they're really not that into you?

You're not giving them enough comfort, so they're getting regret. You need to address that. However, even if you'd just IGNORED their comments re: being aggressive it would've been a LOT better than apologizing for THEIR issue. THEY felt regret, that doesn't mean you have anything to apologize for. Look at their text, "lots of fun lets do it again."

You don't text someone that if you have a real serious issue with the physicality you had. You say they went cold, but how much comfort are you giving them? Girls need emotional connection with the physicality otherwise they associate negative or worse "no connection."