[AneroidOcean]

(06-04-2013 09:11 AM)presidentcarter Wrote:  

The thing I don't like about "social circle" game is the waves you'll make if you ever want to pull the plug with a girl you've pulled.

You're doing it wrong if you're going to create big waves, although having some ripple effect is unavoidable in many cases. While I agree with WestCoast that social circle game is not generally even close to the best way to meet women, networking and having those social skills is really crucial to success in life and with women.

The key to social circle game is to be the central point between multiple interesting/exciting social circles. When you can give people high value by simply making an introduction or bringing someone from one social circle effortlessly into another (where both parties benefit), this is when you become regarded with some awe (I've experienced this and I always feel it's a bit undeserved but am also very conscious of how powerful this effect is and I feel it's undeserved less and less).

(06-04-2013 01:18 PM)Divorco Wrote:  

(06-04-2013 11:03 AM)el mechanico Wrote:  

If anyone has a question it may help me explain.

Some times they have so much shit to talk you have to wait until the smoke clears to ... just let it happen without grenading and deleting the number.

I probably mistitled this post by mentioning with social circle. My point is that women are not defensive within social circles and other situations (on vacation, shortage of men, etc.). In crowded situations (D.C. bars, online) they get approached a lot and automatically reject 90% of guys. But these are not rational rejections based on the guy's true quality. The women just have reflexive "bitch shields" because they are overwhelmed with pressure.

Some guys manage to nonchalantly avoid bad reactions. They casually talk with the women without triggering defensiveness and without entering the friend zone. In other words, they artificially get treated like "normal" guys who are already within the social circle. The question is how to bypass filters and get treated in a friendly, non-bitchy way.

I agree that the really great thing to take out of this post is not necessarily social circle game, but to be able to put people at ease at all times. If you can make people comfortable they will be way more receptive to giving you value.

When you can interact with a brand new person that you've never met before (or that you just vaguely know) in front of a girl and have her ask you how long you've known that person and they're stunned when you say that you've just met them, you're on the right track. When I achieve this it's so funny because girls I'm hanging out with think I just know everyone and I'm elevated above them. How many people do you know that are just comfortable and can shoot the shit with just about anyone they've just met?

The ability to be disarming is rare, so you should cultivate it hard. Charisma is powerful, opens doors that would otherwise be closed, and can allow you to drop women's defenses always. I'm still learning this but MAN is it powerful to be able to hold this frame. When people with fame or status can just talk about any topic (especially something really painful like a bad childhood or drug use/mistakes) most people are in awe because they can't fathom being unafraid of what people think or how people will react. They think these famous/high status people have more to lose by being so honest and revealing their true natures, but what they don't realize is that they come from a position of strength and they by and large created that position, it's not naturally occurring to act "normal" with people you don't know.