This rings my mind with unclear memories but a persistent question: what to do if your family finds out you are going out alone (to bars, clubs)?
Many years ago... Some weeks after I decided to roll solo the topic arised on friday night just before going out. My mom and sis asked: "Are you going out with [friend]? Who are you going to meet? and When are you going to come back? "
(There are some moderately concerning crime rates in my city)
At the time, I just said I was going on my own to "have a look at the place".
My sister is well-intentioned and smart, and asked concerned: "Are you going to go drink alone?"
I guess my frame control wasn't at its best at the time, so I answered: "Of course not!, I'm just going to have a drink and meet new people."
And an avalanche of warnings rained on me: "It is very DANGEROUS to have an adventure with a girl you don't know well! You will get HIV/HERPES/GONHORREA! You may get robbed also! You are not used to that, you will be like a little fish hopping into a shark tank! The people you find in bars will hurt you!" (I was impressed from hearing this last one)
(Consider that I was going to go to one of the high-end places in my city, where hot young girls congregated. Foreign exchange students and internship trainees included. By the way, some guys arrived all suited up to spit game at them)
By the time, my level of game and logistics awareness wasn't at the level of going to the bar and take a girl to sleep with her that same night. I was amused because they supposed I had such capabilities.![[Image: confused.gif]](https://rooshvforum.network/images/smilies/confused.gif)
But on the other hand... I understood that my own personal choices are best to not discuss it with your close family. Or are they?
Had you this discussion/talk with your parents? What you said?
In my personal opinion, I think there are always risks to get what you want. "You cannot win the lottery if you don't have a ticket".
And of course: I was looking for a way to move out. I was just saving money and looking for a place. And yes, living alone is freaking expensive at the beginning. Sharing a flat is a better option, but finding the right flatmates is a challenge on its own.
Many years ago... Some weeks after I decided to roll solo the topic arised on friday night just before going out. My mom and sis asked: "Are you going out with [friend]? Who are you going to meet? and When are you going to come back? "
(There are some moderately concerning crime rates in my city)
At the time, I just said I was going on my own to "have a look at the place".
My sister is well-intentioned and smart, and asked concerned: "Are you going to go drink alone?"
I guess my frame control wasn't at its best at the time, so I answered: "Of course not!, I'm just going to have a drink and meet new people."
And an avalanche of warnings rained on me: "It is very DANGEROUS to have an adventure with a girl you don't know well! You will get HIV/HERPES/GONHORREA! You may get robbed also! You are not used to that, you will be like a little fish hopping into a shark tank! The people you find in bars will hurt you!" (I was impressed from hearing this last one)
(Consider that I was going to go to one of the high-end places in my city, where hot young girls congregated. Foreign exchange students and internship trainees included. By the way, some guys arrived all suited up to spit game at them)
By the time, my level of game and logistics awareness wasn't at the level of going to the bar and take a girl to sleep with her that same night. I was amused because they supposed I had such capabilities.
But on the other hand... I understood that my own personal choices are best to not discuss it with your close family. Or are they?
Had you this discussion/talk with your parents? What you said?
In my personal opinion, I think there are always risks to get what you want. "You cannot win the lottery if you don't have a ticket".
And of course: I was looking for a way to move out. I was just saving money and looking for a place. And yes, living alone is freaking expensive at the beginning. Sharing a flat is a better option, but finding the right flatmates is a challenge on its own.