Interesting. In hook-up culture, the blowjob has actually become LESS intimate - it's what girls that don't want to fuck yet will gladly do. This girl is the opposite. She appears most concerned with getting skeeted on - she's paranoid and inexperienced. She believes the dick is like nitroglycerin - an unstable compound that will explode if jostled. If blowjobs are as unimportant to you as you say, continue smashing but commit yourself to also hunting for new girls. When you find one that is willing to step up to the mic and spit, phase this one out.
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