I think an irony of freewill is that the more we recognize the constraints on it, the more we have it.
When you're aware of your instinctual limitations, subconscious programming, etc., you can address why you do what you do and possibly change it. If you know, for example, that you're attracted to BPD psychos because you're trying to resolve something with your mom, you can see what's happening when it happens and rectify it.
But the people without much freewill are often those who most loudly insist they have it. They're entirely self-unaware and therefore blind to what controls them.
I believe we've got freewill, but it has its limits. The more you recognize those limits, the better you can handle and overcome them.
When you're aware of your instinctual limitations, subconscious programming, etc., you can address why you do what you do and possibly change it. If you know, for example, that you're attracted to BPD psychos because you're trying to resolve something with your mom, you can see what's happening when it happens and rectify it.
But the people without much freewill are often those who most loudly insist they have it. They're entirely self-unaware and therefore blind to what controls them.
I believe we've got freewill, but it has its limits. The more you recognize those limits, the better you can handle and overcome them.