Recently I've been reflecting on game, some random thoughts, but not necessarily new revelations.
I am really seeing how the hotter the girl, the tighter your game needs to be exponentially in correlation to her looks. The level of game you need to pull a 6 is much less than the game you need to pull an 8. A 6 or 7 will give you more leeway if you make a faux pas and say something kind of dumb or a joke falls flat, but an 8 may not be so forgiving.
Obviously the better looking you are, the more slack she will cut you. If you are attempting to pull women in a nightlife scenario that are 1-2 points higher than you on the scale, than you really need air tight game. Otherwise you need to be in a country like Romania or have some kind of serious social status.
Target selection is such a crucial aspect of the game, especially if you are out for a SNL and aren't really down to play the numbers, flirt with a bunch of girls, collect phone numbers, text, go on dates, etc. Last night I was spitting good game, but every girl I seemed to hook was either not drinking too much, with a big group of friends (and thus not wanting to look like a slut), or a little bit more prudish and not down to go home with a guy they just met an hour ago. I collected four phone numbers and scored a late night make out, but alas I went home with dick in hand.
Other nights I talked to the right girl either right off the bat or a few approaches in to the night. She was usually either alone, drunk, a wild party girl, a lonely girl, or a girl who was on the rebound and looking for dick. Part of finding these girls was just circumstantial random luck, but part of it was "screening for girls who are DTF". Once you get enough knowledge and experience in the game, you start to pick up on all the signs, like a "radio frequency", you begin to develop that sense of girls who are looking to fuck.
A lot of times they will make it obvious, they will say, "I just live a 2 minutes walk from here, I don't have to wake up till noon tomarrow, I came out alone because I'm bored and want to have fun". Other times you will have to read other signs like the look in her eyes, facial expressions, etc. I know Roosh did a blog post about this in the past, but when you get really jedi with this shit you can scan the room like a social disecting robot, and size up all the women and what their intention and availability is for the night.
A tactic I am liking is when I approach awoman and open her for the first time, like I know who she is, I've known her for years, and talked to her several times before. Am I pulling some cheesy, weak game, where I pretend like I know her and we've met before? Hell no. What I mean is I approach her and talk to her smoothly, confidently, and comfortably, even interrupting her conversation, not introducing myself, just talking to her like I've known her for days, and it's just normal to be talking to her.
Conciously she may wonder, who is this guy, do I know him, have we even met before? Unconciously she is thinking, this guy is so smooth and natural, he is so bold, I can't believe the way he is talking to me, other guys stare at me all night, downing drinks before they drunkely stumble up to me and mutter something stupid, while this guy just waltz up like I've been his fuck buddy for years.
There is the saying, "it's not what you say, but how you say it." When your verbal game is tight, you talk smoothly, your tonality is strong, clear and crisp, you emphasize the right words when you are being witty and clever. So much of your confidence is transmitted in your voice, how you speak, your tonality, your pace, etc. Also your body language and facial expressions as well. You can say the most clever and funny thing, but if you don't deliver it right because your voice is shaky, cracking, you speak too fast or too quitely, you stutter, you mumble, than it will never be attractive.
A big hurdle that a lot of guys face that can take years to overcome is timidity. So many men are just afraid of taking charge and being dominant. Women are attracted to dominance, and it is in their nature to be submissive. Western culture teaches men to respect women, it scares us and tells us "no means no", being sexual is "sexual harassment". This can create a situation where guys have deep seeded anxiety over what is an appropriate level of sexual forwardness. Once a guy takes the red pill he knows he can touch a women within a couple minutes of talking to her, he knows he must push through her resistance, he must kiss her, he must take action.
Basically he must lead and be dominant. Once you overcome this fear, and tap into your dominant side, you can unlock a lot of pussy that you would have never tapped into before, when you were timid, you were shy, anxious, always worrying about being respectful. Meanwhile the "asshole" is making out with the girl at the end of the bar, and taking her by the hand and walking her out of the bar, to his car, to his bed, to his cock, always leading the way.
I am really seeing how the hotter the girl, the tighter your game needs to be exponentially in correlation to her looks. The level of game you need to pull a 6 is much less than the game you need to pull an 8. A 6 or 7 will give you more leeway if you make a faux pas and say something kind of dumb or a joke falls flat, but an 8 may not be so forgiving.
Obviously the better looking you are, the more slack she will cut you. If you are attempting to pull women in a nightlife scenario that are 1-2 points higher than you on the scale, than you really need air tight game. Otherwise you need to be in a country like Romania or have some kind of serious social status.
Target selection is such a crucial aspect of the game, especially if you are out for a SNL and aren't really down to play the numbers, flirt with a bunch of girls, collect phone numbers, text, go on dates, etc. Last night I was spitting good game, but every girl I seemed to hook was either not drinking too much, with a big group of friends (and thus not wanting to look like a slut), or a little bit more prudish and not down to go home with a guy they just met an hour ago. I collected four phone numbers and scored a late night make out, but alas I went home with dick in hand.
Other nights I talked to the right girl either right off the bat or a few approaches in to the night. She was usually either alone, drunk, a wild party girl, a lonely girl, or a girl who was on the rebound and looking for dick. Part of finding these girls was just circumstantial random luck, but part of it was "screening for girls who are DTF". Once you get enough knowledge and experience in the game, you start to pick up on all the signs, like a "radio frequency", you begin to develop that sense of girls who are looking to fuck.
A lot of times they will make it obvious, they will say, "I just live a 2 minutes walk from here, I don't have to wake up till noon tomarrow, I came out alone because I'm bored and want to have fun". Other times you will have to read other signs like the look in her eyes, facial expressions, etc. I know Roosh did a blog post about this in the past, but when you get really jedi with this shit you can scan the room like a social disecting robot, and size up all the women and what their intention and availability is for the night.
A tactic I am liking is when I approach awoman and open her for the first time, like I know who she is, I've known her for years, and talked to her several times before. Am I pulling some cheesy, weak game, where I pretend like I know her and we've met before? Hell no. What I mean is I approach her and talk to her smoothly, confidently, and comfortably, even interrupting her conversation, not introducing myself, just talking to her like I've known her for days, and it's just normal to be talking to her.
Conciously she may wonder, who is this guy, do I know him, have we even met before? Unconciously she is thinking, this guy is so smooth and natural, he is so bold, I can't believe the way he is talking to me, other guys stare at me all night, downing drinks before they drunkely stumble up to me and mutter something stupid, while this guy just waltz up like I've been his fuck buddy for years.
There is the saying, "it's not what you say, but how you say it." When your verbal game is tight, you talk smoothly, your tonality is strong, clear and crisp, you emphasize the right words when you are being witty and clever. So much of your confidence is transmitted in your voice, how you speak, your tonality, your pace, etc. Also your body language and facial expressions as well. You can say the most clever and funny thing, but if you don't deliver it right because your voice is shaky, cracking, you speak too fast or too quitely, you stutter, you mumble, than it will never be attractive.
A big hurdle that a lot of guys face that can take years to overcome is timidity. So many men are just afraid of taking charge and being dominant. Women are attracted to dominance, and it is in their nature to be submissive. Western culture teaches men to respect women, it scares us and tells us "no means no", being sexual is "sexual harassment". This can create a situation where guys have deep seeded anxiety over what is an appropriate level of sexual forwardness. Once a guy takes the red pill he knows he can touch a women within a couple minutes of talking to her, he knows he must push through her resistance, he must kiss her, he must take action.
Basically he must lead and be dominant. Once you overcome this fear, and tap into your dominant side, you can unlock a lot of pussy that you would have never tapped into before, when you were timid, you were shy, anxious, always worrying about being respectful. Meanwhile the "asshole" is making out with the girl at the end of the bar, and taking her by the hand and walking her out of the bar, to his car, to his bed, to his cock, always leading the way.