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Never ever ever go to them, it’s neutral ground or nothing. I made the mistake of thinking there was an exception to this rule when I accepted an invitation to an apartment party. There are no exceptions.
This is a common refrain in online dating discussions, but in my experience it just isn't true. My geographical situation is such that I often drive from 30 min to 90 min to meet an online girl. They know where I live and that I am making this trip to see them . The game theorists would say this is a DLV because I am putting out the effort to chase her and thus lowering my status relative to her. But I have found that all that really matters is what happens once you are face to face with the girl. If you game her and dominate her and create attraction there, you will easily overcome any DLV of coming to see her.
Your problem here was you went to a party, not that you went to her. I never meet a girl when any of her friends or acquaintances are present. I agree that does give her far too much power and status relative to you and creates a terrible social dynamic for you-her friends will test, interrogate and cockblock you.
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Social circle game is powerful shit, I met two friend groups while on dates with girls and immediately was hit on by at least two girls I was introduced to. While the dates treated me like garbage because we had met online, their friends were nice and open because they thought I was a friend of a friend. I should have ditched the dates for their friends.
Again dealing with friends while with online dates almost always goes badly. Trying to ditch a girl for her friend the same night almost never works.
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Dirty texting doesn’t work
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what does is setting up a date and then the next day sending them a muscle/nude selfie as a DHV. Some girls won’t respond, so the dates get killed early. Others will and start to give you shit and then you get to be cocky/asshole and flirt and open up the sex talk door with them a bit.
I don't send nudes-I think it turns off girls you otherwise could have banged. Muscle shots are ok most times if the girl initiates sending pics
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Don’t go on coffee shop dates, you need to get them drunk.
100% agreed
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If she has somewhere to be after the meet up don’t bother, you need to spend all night with her.
Ideally this is what you want- a free evening with her to go for the SNL. Sometimes I will set up a drink meeting though just to get a foot in the door when she or I am just too busy and have something later. I sometimes do a drink date and then a full date later with another girl
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No make out = no second date.
100% agreed. If she won't makeout with you on the first date she is either not attracted to you or just frigid and in both cases you don't want to invest any more time with her
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Most common flake excuse is the “I’m sick” text during the day when you have plans for that night.
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I stopped sending confirmation texts a while ago and expect them to flake.
I always expect them to flake but I do send a confirmation test in the early afternoon the day of the date
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