I have done several hundred hours of cumulative meditation time as well as the dhamma.org 10 day retreat. You guys are right the type of people who are into it are usually of the spiritual junkie variety. There were quite a few weirdos and also the skinniest guy I have ever seen in my life who was about 6'5" and had the muscle mass of a 14 year old girl. Turns out the guy was a vegan yoga instructor. He looked like he has been recently liberated from a concentration camp.
Most people who show up at these things are missing something and are seeking it through meditation. Some people improve themselves, but alot of them seem to be pretty much the same even after lots of practice. I have met some truely cool people who are the most fun to be around ever. The process purges you of insecurities and all that nonsense that was conditioned into you as you grew up. You accept things as they are and do not feel an emotional pull towards certain outcomes, although you can choose to work towards things.
You develop an appreciation for people and what they can bring to the table and also develop understanding of their situation and a deep seated compassion and empathy for people. This does not mean you have to act beta or overly nice to people. With this wisdom comes the understanding that people need and want strong men to be around them. You have the capability for acting towards people with a combination of understanding of their situation and the playful teasing and other ways of interacting that we know to be effective. The result is the most attractive vibe imaginable. Girls can sense if you are a man that they can fall in love with by picking up on subtle cues that you give off. They know instinctively if you have insecurities or alterior motives. There is absolutely no way to fake this, but it is the key to having charisma and will pull people towards you. There is an entire subsection of this forum where people ask what to say/do in certain situations. The meditation will renovate your mind so that you will know what to do.
Keep in mind when attempting to start meditating that the "sila", ie moral conduct, are very important. Basically you will not be able to do it effectively if your brain has been wired to addicting substances/activities. The extremely high rate of orgasm in the population and the ubiquitous nature of porn will prevent you from making as much progress as you can with this technique.
Most people who show up at these things are missing something and are seeking it through meditation. Some people improve themselves, but alot of them seem to be pretty much the same even after lots of practice. I have met some truely cool people who are the most fun to be around ever. The process purges you of insecurities and all that nonsense that was conditioned into you as you grew up. You accept things as they are and do not feel an emotional pull towards certain outcomes, although you can choose to work towards things.
You develop an appreciation for people and what they can bring to the table and also develop understanding of their situation and a deep seated compassion and empathy for people. This does not mean you have to act beta or overly nice to people. With this wisdom comes the understanding that people need and want strong men to be around them. You have the capability for acting towards people with a combination of understanding of their situation and the playful teasing and other ways of interacting that we know to be effective. The result is the most attractive vibe imaginable. Girls can sense if you are a man that they can fall in love with by picking up on subtle cues that you give off. They know instinctively if you have insecurities or alterior motives. There is absolutely no way to fake this, but it is the key to having charisma and will pull people towards you. There is an entire subsection of this forum where people ask what to say/do in certain situations. The meditation will renovate your mind so that you will know what to do.
Keep in mind when attempting to start meditating that the "sila", ie moral conduct, are very important. Basically you will not be able to do it effectively if your brain has been wired to addicting substances/activities. The extremely high rate of orgasm in the population and the ubiquitous nature of porn will prevent you from making as much progress as you can with this technique.