Quote: (03-12-2019 08:16 PM)jasond Wrote:
Lol at these big ballers like JWLZG and Brosemite who think girls are the same everywhere, and guys just need to up their game. I've traveled and lived in 30+ countries and there are big cultural differences that will affect your success.
Haha thanks for the shout out as a "big baller."
Not quite at your level yet..but I've been to 24 different countries while taking the time to develop literacy in 3 languages with semi-fluency in another.
I primarily speak from my experiences having an active life in high school, college, and immediately after graduating as a young professional. Even dated quite a bit outside of campus during the waning days of my undergrad too. As mentioned in another thread, I will never be able to hold a finger on what you've accomplished academically and in your career but was always surrounded by higher quality social/female interaction opportunities opposed to being bottled up in a heavily male atmosphere of Silicon Valley after college. Socializing, dating, or "gaming" as everyone puts it wasn't prolonged till years after my career started in other words.
If you've read my previous posts, it's essentially sums up my travels & different tendencies of females of various countries but also mentioned that not everywhere within the US is the same as well.
Much like many guys on this forum, I've had my share of successes not to mention failures as well. Have had the advantages of benefitting off different social circles while falling short due to not having the comfort of being in the immediate spheres of influences regarding certain gals too which guys can't really take too personally either.
In reference to observing my surroundings, these are some influential factors that shape my overall thought process of social situations:
1) I grew up half Taiwanese and half Vietnamese as the communication patterns of my parents were quite different. Being close to relatives from both sides of the equation, I had to absorb two different cultures while straying away from interaction was unfortunately perceived as disrespect. Disrespect = disciplinary consequences; we're all Asian here so use your imagination....
2) As a son of immigrants from two different cultures being raised in the west, I often had to not just perform many functions but also spoke on behalf of my parents in many different situations. I didn't do it as frequently as my older sister but had my fair share of the responsibility. I had to absorb the viewpoints of my parents & while pre-maturely developing an understanding of how adults outside of the Asian bubble interacted while touching the buttons of others correctly; that process continues till this day.
It's as if I've always been in "sales" for the sake of family members & myself even before actually engaging in the profession years later.
3) I used to take theater classes for fun while in college and afterwards too. My time in that venture entailed more than just regurgitating memorized scripts as endless hours were spent learning about human tendencies & knowing how to act accordingly as a result of it.
4) Playing team sports & always engaging in extra-curricular activities exposed me to the benefits yet also distaste of human tendencies in the past. Big key was that I had terrific takeaways & knew how to evolve as a result of the positives & negatives of those experiences in the past.
You seem like the guy who's very particular about what suits you best minus the unwillingness to adapt to the conditions. Unfortunately, it's obviously not working with all these whiny threads posted in the last few years.
(^Notice I said "unwillingness" & not "ability;" you're a smart guy who can figure it out)
Here's a last tidbit.
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This is true for many but especially critical for most Asian guys as having the right type of haircut brings out the best of your facial features.
In other words, grow it out and only get scissor cuts minus buzzing off the sides. I gave this advice to Dalaran years back as he was able to consequently get more IOIs from gals.
You have my personal contact info so shoot me a DM if you're willing to talk