It seems like most game knowledge tends to focus on being asshole. This is important for most newbies who are used to putting girls on pedestals, and can help break them out of the "nice guy" (girl speak for non-sexual) mode.
That said, if you are an asshole when it's not appropriate, you can over-game and drive her away. In a way, it's like negging a 6 with material that you'd use on an 8: If you're value is already established as being greater than hers, you might scare her away by overdoing it.
One thing I've been noticing about the most successful promoters and players in my social circle is that they are actually all very good at being warm, polite, or nice.
This warm alpha approach is important when you get to a higher level of value. The subtle art of of how and when to be nice is different from the ultra aloof asshole game you need in the raucous club environments.
Don't get me wrong, you are still maintaining the higher ground, but there is time to be warm like a parent- it is a display of social intelligence. At times you are flirting with being condescending, but there is still enough room for the hamster to spin.
An example of this is a girl I went on a date with a couple weeks ago. I got her back to my house, we didn't bang yet, but she wants to hang out more. Actually, she wants to help me pick out a suit and get clothes etc. I hadn't spoke to her in a while, but I sent out a mass text to all my hoes today, and she responded by saying she "liked" my fan page on facebook.
I could've wrote some snarky or aloof thing, but I texted her back with "thanks!" It may seem like self-deprecating, but it actually creates a distance and puts me on the pedestal; when you are perceived as a rock star, there's no need to be defensive.
It's like that scene in Godfather II when Michael is sitting on the couch and he's arguing with someone. All of sudden, you seem him realize that he's the king, and he relaxes into the couch. No tension.
The club promoters that I know go out of there way to go up to their friends and offer them a drink from their bottle service. They chat people up a bit in a nice way, and then pull away to say hi to the next group of people.
I'd be curious to hear any of your experiences, or thoughts on when or how to be warm.
That said, if you are an asshole when it's not appropriate, you can over-game and drive her away. In a way, it's like negging a 6 with material that you'd use on an 8: If you're value is already established as being greater than hers, you might scare her away by overdoing it.
One thing I've been noticing about the most successful promoters and players in my social circle is that they are actually all very good at being warm, polite, or nice.
This warm alpha approach is important when you get to a higher level of value. The subtle art of of how and when to be nice is different from the ultra aloof asshole game you need in the raucous club environments.
Don't get me wrong, you are still maintaining the higher ground, but there is time to be warm like a parent- it is a display of social intelligence. At times you are flirting with being condescending, but there is still enough room for the hamster to spin.
An example of this is a girl I went on a date with a couple weeks ago. I got her back to my house, we didn't bang yet, but she wants to hang out more. Actually, she wants to help me pick out a suit and get clothes etc. I hadn't spoke to her in a while, but I sent out a mass text to all my hoes today, and she responded by saying she "liked" my fan page on facebook.
I could've wrote some snarky or aloof thing, but I texted her back with "thanks!" It may seem like self-deprecating, but it actually creates a distance and puts me on the pedestal; when you are perceived as a rock star, there's no need to be defensive.
It's like that scene in Godfather II when Michael is sitting on the couch and he's arguing with someone. All of sudden, you seem him realize that he's the king, and he relaxes into the couch. No tension.
The club promoters that I know go out of there way to go up to their friends and offer them a drink from their bottle service. They chat people up a bit in a nice way, and then pull away to say hi to the next group of people.
I'd be curious to hear any of your experiences, or thoughts on when or how to be warm.