Don't buy girls meals. A girl who will only meet you under her conditions is already one who you've lost the frame with. The insistence on meeting during the day for "lunch" or for an "early dinner" or even worse the "i don't really drink girl" is basically just a shit test.
I met my last bang on okcupid. We bantered for a little bit, then I asked her for the drink date. She resisted. She wanted to do a Sunday afternoon lunch date. Now philosophically I just won't do that. But I actually had a legitimate excuse why I couldn't, which I used. Even if you don't have one, make one up. I did not counteroffer; I just declined the suggestion. She hits me back the next day saying drinks are fine.
Its a shit test man. And if you say no to meals, and she never hits you back - who gives a fuck? Next.
I met my last bang on okcupid. We bantered for a little bit, then I asked her for the drink date. She resisted. She wanted to do a Sunday afternoon lunch date. Now philosophically I just won't do that. But I actually had a legitimate excuse why I couldn't, which I used. Even if you don't have one, make one up. I did not counteroffer; I just declined the suggestion. She hits me back the next day saying drinks are fine.
Its a shit test man. And if you say no to meals, and she never hits you back - who gives a fuck? Next.