While not technically my first time going out alone, this was my first time trying to put any real effort into it. I have a local sports bar I walk to alone to watch UFC matches. I went there once on a regular night and had a few beers but felt so awkward I just sat there watching the TV and did no approaches. But Jackhammer's recent post on rolling out solo inspired me to give it an effort last night. Roosh's latest video post also gave me some more confidence about it in how to approach alone and where to position yourself in the bar.
Although it wasn't a fruitful night per se, I did end up having a good time, and I think I'm now over my issues of rolling solo night game. In fact, as I found out, having friends or wings along can even be counter-productive as you may easily get distracted from the reason you went out in the first place. All the fears of looking like a loser were just in my head. Nobody seemed to even care that I was by myself.
I started my night out in downtown checking out an outdoor hip-hop concert at this amphitheater. I was there mainly for the show, but was also looking for targets. Most people were seated or with friends and paying attention to the show and there wasn't much mingling going on. I posted up near a wall that people were walking by and looked for eye contact from girls walking by. This cat much older than me, another lone wolf posted up and asked something about what group was on next. We got to talking and it turned out he was pretty much doing the same thing I was, but he was a much older playa. I thought he was maybe 45-50, but turned out he was 62 which shocked me as he looked fairly young and in shape(He looked a bit like Obama). He was spitting game at girls half his age that walked by. He'd traveled across Latin America and were talking about the girls down there and music and all kinds of stuff. Talking to him had actually caused me to mess up an opportunity to approach this cute sista that smiled at me walking by. He soon after took off as he said he was meeting up with a lady, he gave me his biz card and that was that. I'll prolly stay in touch. I then ran into a few local peeps I know and hung with them for a bit until they had to take off. Tried approaching this one bangin sista that looked E. African but she was clearly uninterested. So far, going out alone didn't seem that lonely after all.
After the show I went to a local downtown bar called Spring Street. It felt weird going in by myself but I did it anyway. I slowly walked the length of the bar and went to the bathroom just so I could see if there were any available targets. It was looking pretty weak. I chatted up a dude in line at the bathroom just to keep myself sociable. After that, I went back to the bar and sort of hung in a hidden place(per Roosh's video) and waited to see if there were any attractive chics coming in. After 20 minutes I was getting bored seeing no turnover and bounced to another venue.
I then went to another bar around the corner called Las Perlas. Looked more lively but not seeing too many targets there either(too many Asian chics, girls with guys). I went to an open space at the corner of the bar and posted up and ordered an expensive cocktail. Only approachable girls were these two friends right next to me, a cute and thin black girl and this overweight Mexican chic who still had a cute face. The Mexican chic was right next to me. She just got her drink so I opened her for conversation. I wasn't interested in her but just wanted to stay sociable so I don't get caught up in my head. Slowly I got the black girl more engaged in the conversation though she wasn't participating nearly as much as the Mexican girl. After 30 minutes of chatting, my drink was done and I felt like the conversation sort of exhausted itself and there were now pauses. I looked around and didn't see anything else I wanted to hit up. I said goodbye to the two chics and bounced. I'm sure the Mexican girl would've given me her number but she was too heavyset for me.
I walked across the street to a place called Coles and the bar looked packed. Before I could even get to the bar to grab a beer, I hear someone call out my name. It was some old friends I hadn't seen in a few years. At that point I pretty much had to sit down and talk to them and get caught up. Meanwhile a few more cute chics were trickling in but since I was engage in conversation with my college-era buddies, now I was distracted from approaching. After that we left to go eat at a taco truck and that was a wrap. One of the dudes is married and one has been in a relationship with the same girl forever but I got the clear impression they are both prowling for some ass on the side.
So all in all, not a very prolific night as far as approaches(due to not many good targets and getting distracted with friends I encountered), but this was my first time rolling solo at night and I think I'm already over my apprehension about doing it and that was the main goal. I had fun and I'm actually excited about doing it again. I would like to get to the point where I roll out solo at least 4 days a week for both happy hours game and night game.
I say to my fellows here, if you've been thinking about rolling solo but felt weird about it, just do it. It's not bad at all and you will be more efficient and waste less time chatting with buddies. Wingmen are really unnecessary now.
Although it wasn't a fruitful night per se, I did end up having a good time, and I think I'm now over my issues of rolling solo night game. In fact, as I found out, having friends or wings along can even be counter-productive as you may easily get distracted from the reason you went out in the first place. All the fears of looking like a loser were just in my head. Nobody seemed to even care that I was by myself.
I started my night out in downtown checking out an outdoor hip-hop concert at this amphitheater. I was there mainly for the show, but was also looking for targets. Most people were seated or with friends and paying attention to the show and there wasn't much mingling going on. I posted up near a wall that people were walking by and looked for eye contact from girls walking by. This cat much older than me, another lone wolf posted up and asked something about what group was on next. We got to talking and it turned out he was pretty much doing the same thing I was, but he was a much older playa. I thought he was maybe 45-50, but turned out he was 62 which shocked me as he looked fairly young and in shape(He looked a bit like Obama). He was spitting game at girls half his age that walked by. He'd traveled across Latin America and were talking about the girls down there and music and all kinds of stuff. Talking to him had actually caused me to mess up an opportunity to approach this cute sista that smiled at me walking by. He soon after took off as he said he was meeting up with a lady, he gave me his biz card and that was that. I'll prolly stay in touch. I then ran into a few local peeps I know and hung with them for a bit until they had to take off. Tried approaching this one bangin sista that looked E. African but she was clearly uninterested. So far, going out alone didn't seem that lonely after all.
After the show I went to a local downtown bar called Spring Street. It felt weird going in by myself but I did it anyway. I slowly walked the length of the bar and went to the bathroom just so I could see if there were any available targets. It was looking pretty weak. I chatted up a dude in line at the bathroom just to keep myself sociable. After that, I went back to the bar and sort of hung in a hidden place(per Roosh's video) and waited to see if there were any attractive chics coming in. After 20 minutes I was getting bored seeing no turnover and bounced to another venue.
I then went to another bar around the corner called Las Perlas. Looked more lively but not seeing too many targets there either(too many Asian chics, girls with guys). I went to an open space at the corner of the bar and posted up and ordered an expensive cocktail. Only approachable girls were these two friends right next to me, a cute and thin black girl and this overweight Mexican chic who still had a cute face. The Mexican chic was right next to me. She just got her drink so I opened her for conversation. I wasn't interested in her but just wanted to stay sociable so I don't get caught up in my head. Slowly I got the black girl more engaged in the conversation though she wasn't participating nearly as much as the Mexican girl. After 30 minutes of chatting, my drink was done and I felt like the conversation sort of exhausted itself and there were now pauses. I looked around and didn't see anything else I wanted to hit up. I said goodbye to the two chics and bounced. I'm sure the Mexican girl would've given me her number but she was too heavyset for me.
I walked across the street to a place called Coles and the bar looked packed. Before I could even get to the bar to grab a beer, I hear someone call out my name. It was some old friends I hadn't seen in a few years. At that point I pretty much had to sit down and talk to them and get caught up. Meanwhile a few more cute chics were trickling in but since I was engage in conversation with my college-era buddies, now I was distracted from approaching. After that we left to go eat at a taco truck and that was a wrap. One of the dudes is married and one has been in a relationship with the same girl forever but I got the clear impression they are both prowling for some ass on the side.
So all in all, not a very prolific night as far as approaches(due to not many good targets and getting distracted with friends I encountered), but this was my first time rolling solo at night and I think I'm already over my apprehension about doing it and that was the main goal. I had fun and I'm actually excited about doing it again. I would like to get to the point where I roll out solo at least 4 days a week for both happy hours game and night game.
I say to my fellows here, if you've been thinking about rolling solo but felt weird about it, just do it. It's not bad at all and you will be more efficient and waste less time chatting with buddies. Wingmen are really unnecessary now.