I recently read about adult attachment styles and it fucking blew my mind. It explained so much and I know it has helped my game considerably. It can remove the 'this feels like psychopathy' angle a lot of game has, and help you avoid the drama queens.
There are 3 types:
Secure: These are women who aren't jealous drama queens or ice cold. They are not insecure people. You can text them the next day if your first date went good. They usually end up in another long term relationship fairly quickly and end up not being on the dating market long. As a result, even though they're the majority of people, they're a minority on the dating market.
Anxious: These people are far more sensitive than the average to people abandoning them, and are the OAG personified at the extreme end of things. They can confuse their 'attachment' system trying to reattach with their lover with feelings of love. As an ironic result, anxious and avoidant people attract each other like magnets and anxious people don't find secure people as interesting. An anxious person with a secure person although will calm down eventually and not act so anxious.
Avoidant: These people have a hard time getting too close because they want a strong feelings of independence and control. They freak out when they get 'too' close to someone. They're a good chunk of game advice. Whats funny although is even though they act like they don't want the person they're with, they still feel the same high amounts of stress that an anxious person going through an jealously attack when they feel worried. A pair of a avoidants never get anywhere since they don't have the glue to stay together, and secure people usually leave them quickly because they won't put up with their bullshit. This puts them on the dating market frequently. As a result, even though avoidants are a minority of people, they're the majority of the dating market.
A lot of game is playing the avoidant to the anxious chicks or not doing things that will fuck up with the avoidant chicks. Secure women might leave you fairly quickly because they don't want to deal with your player BS that smells like an avoidant a mile away. Knowing what kind of girl your dealing with and adjusting your game as a result can help you considerably. You might not want to deal with avoidants anymore after you know although.
I don't explain it that well, but these will explain it better:
Wikipedia: Attachment in Adults
Book I read (directed towards women more than men, but still useful): Attached
There are 3 types:
Secure: These are women who aren't jealous drama queens or ice cold. They are not insecure people. You can text them the next day if your first date went good. They usually end up in another long term relationship fairly quickly and end up not being on the dating market long. As a result, even though they're the majority of people, they're a minority on the dating market.
Anxious: These people are far more sensitive than the average to people abandoning them, and are the OAG personified at the extreme end of things. They can confuse their 'attachment' system trying to reattach with their lover with feelings of love. As an ironic result, anxious and avoidant people attract each other like magnets and anxious people don't find secure people as interesting. An anxious person with a secure person although will calm down eventually and not act so anxious.
Avoidant: These people have a hard time getting too close because they want a strong feelings of independence and control. They freak out when they get 'too' close to someone. They're a good chunk of game advice. Whats funny although is even though they act like they don't want the person they're with, they still feel the same high amounts of stress that an anxious person going through an jealously attack when they feel worried. A pair of a avoidants never get anywhere since they don't have the glue to stay together, and secure people usually leave them quickly because they won't put up with their bullshit. This puts them on the dating market frequently. As a result, even though avoidants are a minority of people, they're the majority of the dating market.
A lot of game is playing the avoidant to the anxious chicks or not doing things that will fuck up with the avoidant chicks. Secure women might leave you fairly quickly because they don't want to deal with your player BS that smells like an avoidant a mile away. Knowing what kind of girl your dealing with and adjusting your game as a result can help you considerably. You might not want to deal with avoidants anymore after you know although.
I don't explain it that well, but these will explain it better:
Wikipedia: Attachment in Adults
Book I read (directed towards women more than men, but still useful): Attached