[haywire]

First things, first. Avoid IM, texting to build attraction, just keep them for logistical purposes. And when you do have to use IM, texts keep things light, playful and to the point.

Here's my critique of your 'IM game', sorry if I sound too harsh.

(06-30-2012 09:37 PM)Zobee Wrote:  

M
Anyway, word on the street is you're back in town.

Weak, stalker-ish and a power sink. The moment you said the above, you conceded major power to her.

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H
Your joking right? And yes, yes i am back

M
Of course. I've been out of school for a few weeks now XD. Really, I know its been a while since we talked but you should have let me know you were coming back. How long are you staying for?

Creepy. Unless a chick is your gf or heavily attracted to you or made plans with you beforehand, don't expect her to let you know about her plans. Also, you're already way too invested in the convo - your replies are long and drawn out while hers are simple one liners.

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H
A few weeks, but the thing is i didnt tell anyone because im busy the entire time im here. I havent seen some of my family in over a year
M
Ah, the whole time eh? So there'd be no time for us to hangout or anything? Because I had a couple ideas XP

No, no, no. You're begging for her time and attention. This is not going to work. You're making it sound as if she'd do you a huge favor by hanging out with you. Remember, women are attracted to men they consider higher value than themselves.

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H
As of right now no sorry:/ what kind of ideas?

M
A fancy, romantic dinner with candles and shit. Real classy
or, we could always chill at square one or something.
in any case, hit me up if you have time to spare while you're here.

No way, buddy! She's shutting you down and you're rewarding her by putting her on the highest pedestal. Talk about power imbalance.

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H
Are you asking me out?

M
Asking you out? You'll have to work a bit harder for that i'm just asking if you want to hang out sometime while you're back in town, it would be a shame if we didn't have the opportunity to see each other again.

Come on dude, use at least an iota of common sense. Even a 2 year old can figure that you're asking her out. Blindly using canned 'game-lines' won't cut it, you have to be congruent overall.

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Underlying question is, did she flake on me or did I fuck up somewhere?

Ofcourse you fucked up and fucked up royally. There was no attraction from her side. You gave her immense power. Pedastalized her for no reason. And were overall pretty beta.

Anyways, learn your lessons from it and move on. Failures are utmost important for success. We all have had such a convo with some chick at some point in our game careers, so don't worry much. Focus on other chicks, have multiple lines open at the same time. Keep trying till you succeed.