But here's the one scary part:
"Part of me misses the freedom of living alone (or at least not having a girl always living with me) and the freedom of just being able to do whatever,whenever and sometimes I wonder where I'd be had I not met this girl."
If you really don't want her long-term, jeez, after 9 years she deserves to know. THAT would make you a jerk. If you don't want to live with her, get out.
But maybe you should play around first. it might solve the problem.
If you want to avoid complications you can set rules for yourself like divorced MILF's only, BJ's only, or out-of-town only.
Don't tell her with words, tell her with the way you fuck her.
"Part of me misses the freedom of living alone (or at least not having a girl always living with me) and the freedom of just being able to do whatever,whenever and sometimes I wonder where I'd be had I not met this girl."
If you really don't want her long-term, jeez, after 9 years she deserves to know. THAT would make you a jerk. If you don't want to live with her, get out.
But maybe you should play around first. it might solve the problem.
If you want to avoid complications you can set rules for yourself like divorced MILF's only, BJ's only, or out-of-town only.
Don't tell her with words, tell her with the way you fuck her.