Quote: (04-05-2012 08:05 PM)PDX Wrote:
Quote: (04-05-2012 02:26 PM)R_B Wrote:
As mentioned, your value goes down in the eyes of women who see you get rejected by other women (opposite of pre-selection) or even if she simply sees you initiate conversations with lots of women (conveys neediness).
Really opposed to this line of thinking. It's goes a long with the "what if" fears that keeps guys from approaching. Women in bars simply aren't attuned enough to the overall environment be paying attention to some random dude's blowoffs and rejections. And the few times that it *might* actually happen are so miniscule that it's not worth adjusting your strategy.
There are plenty of reason to use post-up game, but concern of what others think of you shouldn't be one.
Instead of approaching any cute girl I think it's much better to screen her for flirtatious signals, try to make eye contact with her (and test her reaction), and, if you open, just say something simple and then screen for her reaction. Girls are able to figure this stuff out, believe it or not, and are better at this type of communication than men (but are not able to create the structures for civilization, but that's just a minor detail ). If you say anything to a girl in a bar (besides something like "excuse me" as you walk by her, etc.), who is a stranger, and who does not work there, she will think you are probably interested in her romantically, and she is usually right. Think about it, would you even say "hi" or "what's up" to a fat or otherwise unattractive girl who came into your proximity at a bar? No, you would ignore her.