I have made numerous solo trips ( about 10 ) to the provinces of Belarus,mainly concentrating on the Eastern part of the country. I have had successes and failures in equal measure over there,had one night stands and a LTR and will share some info and insights about the place and how to go about getting laid out there. I don't claim to know it all, or that my advice is the only way to go about things,it is merely what I have found has worked for me over the years. Maybe it will for you too.
Provincial Belarus is a place unlike anywhere else I have been in Europe. It's one of empty roads running in a straight line through endless forests and fence-less fields. The pace of life is slow. The region that I know well ( South East ) is a flat land scattered with small villages that are stuck in time. Many of the villages have no running water,babushkas still have to use the outside toilet in winter when it is minus 20 centigrade. Life revolves around the Kolkhoz which employs a lot of the residents of these villages. There are no gaming options here. The only girls you see are young teenagers staying with their babushka/dedushka during the school holidays. Everyone else left as soon as they could. Next up you have the towns,small in population and small on entertainment options. These towns like Hoiniki or Zhlobin are usually identical: they have some shops selling vitals,a market place selling produce from dachas,a Soviet hotel that is overpriced,the local factory that employs the town,a couple of bars,a couple of restaurants and a train station. There is a main street and then apartment blocks all around it. These places offer practically nothing for a tourist interested in seeing any kind of 'sights'. These towns do have some great looking women and are worth targeting if you have time to dedicate to the place,have an adventurous spirit and speak some Russian. However even with that you can find it hit or miss. I have had great successes and miserable failures in these towns. Finally you have the big towns: Gomel,Vitsebsk,Mogilov. University towns with a lot of girls in the right age group. There is a lot more to do then the second tier towns in terms of entertainment and gaming. You have clubs ( don't get too excited ),bars and a more open minded group of women who have escaped their smaller towns at the small town mentality. These should be your primary base and you can have a lot of fun here.
It's not a cliché,the women there are certainly more reserved on the whole then Russian women,but don't put them on a pedestal,they are still Slavic and are not a demure push over. They give as good as they get when the occasion demands. They are a good looking race of women but I would put Ukrainians above them because personally I like brunettes and there are more in the Ukraine and also because Ukrainian women dress better and do themselves up more. Belarusian women are an attractive race but a little conservative and this translates to their style as well as their values and thinking. With average wages in the low $100's they tend to buy their clothes on the weekend markets that pop up on the outskirts of these towns. Hence the styles are cheap and cheerful Ukrainian imports. They always make the best of themselves though with what they have but they just don't dress in that slutty way I love to see south of the border.
Another thing worth mentioning is that despite not having much in terms of money the people are not all clamouring to get out of there. Do not expect that as a foreigner in the backwaters you will in any way have women of quality throwing themselves at you. To bang out there you must bring some game to the table. I have been in towns in the south where the people have nothing,the only jobs are working bare foot in cow shit on the local Kolkhoz for $120 a month,the infrastructure has collapsed,it's been irradiated by Chernobyl and still the women I have met in shops or on the street have shown little interest in meeting me. Some people ( this forum is very clued up on the whole ) have this romantic image of walking into town in their Gucci loafers and snagging a 10 due to the poverty. It might happen but it probably won't. It is surprising how totally uninterested in a rare foreigner they are considering he may be seen as a way out. People seem far more interested in me in Russia then Belarus. I kind of like that attitude.
Let's look at how to bang in this part of the world. There is no need to discuss villages and smaller towns as there are hardly any opportunities to bother with. I don't actually know what the difference is between second and first tier cities so for the purpose of this post we will call Gomel,Vitsebsk,first tier and Rechitsa,Bobruisk etc. second tier.
Second Tier Bang:
If you want to bang in the provinces you have to approach things in a certain way. Outside of Minsk foreigners are rare. In my 4 summers there I only ever met one in the provinces a mid 50's Englishmen who had married a local woman. This means you stand out,big time! People will turn their heads when they hear your accent. They also have an innate ability to spot a foreigner from a hundred yards away without hearing you speak. I never worked out how people instinctively knew I was a foreigner even when I was just on my way to the gym in a t-shirt and trackie bottoms. Anyway this 'standing out' from the crowd can hinder you down there because in these smaller towns everyone knows everyone and due to the monotony of life people gossip,a lot. News of a foreigner in town spreads.
So out in the open if you stop to talk to a girl in the street she can be very reluctant to engage with you because of what passers by may think of her. For example I approached a girl once in Bobruisk,we got talking and as we did so on the main road a woman walked past and said under her breath 'prostitutka' to her. That ended that interaction! I heard my LTR's mother say the same thing once when driving through a small town. Two girls were dancing in a park to music on a radio. She looked at them and said "prostitutes!". WTF! I asked her why she said that and she said that girls who make a show of themselves in public are obviously prostitutes or sluts ( I actually think the word prostitute out here is used more to mean slut then it is an actual prostitute ) . That is what you are up against out here in the smaller towns. So girls know that if they are seen talking to a stranger in their town and laughing and flirting that they can very quickly have rumours spread about them by whoever sees her. Now if you were seen as someone who might be there long term then she may be willing to take the risk but to her you are just a tourist passing through and hence why bother risking the rumours and innuendo being spread? I never had this problem in Russia where the girls are more forthright and free but here in the backwoods of one of Europe's most conservative countries the mindset prevails .Now this would not be such an issue if there was a bar culture out there. In the confines of a bar where girls are with like minded people and not being watched or judged by their parent's colleagues,neighbours etc. they would no doubt be more open and less wary of you approaching. But the problem is that such a culture does not exist in the provinces. There are some bars ( usually with a table of Gopniki at it sharing a bottle between them ) but due to lack of money the way friends relax is by chipping in for a large bottle of 'Rechitsa' beer between them and going for a promenade with the rest of the town down by the river bank or through the local park. So you are kind of reduced to having to do cold approaches which as I explained are difficult in public view. ( I have to re-iterate that I am talking generally. Every rule can be broken and I have had success by breaking them, I am merely pointing out what I have found in the majority of my own personal experiences ).
So how do you get laid in the provinces? The sure fire way to get laid in the provinces is pretty much the same as any FSU provincial town, you spend time in one town,say a month. You rent an apartment get known,have Russian lessons and meet people. Unfortunately we don't all have the time or inclination to do that. We usually have just a few days in a town and so your tactic is that you must get 'in' with a local. Your best bet is Mamba. You'll find girls on there from most Belarusian towns ( be warned that English levels are low ). I think mamba is a great tool and can reap great results but I don't often use it. The reason why not is I love the uncertainty of arriving in a town and not knowing what will happen,that is what I keep going back for,to challenge myself. I love arriving in an nondescript town in the FSU backwaters where I do not know a soul,where the people look unwelcoming and then over the course of a few days using my guile and wit to get past that and end up in bed with a good looking girl. Sometimes it works and I get on the train out of there a few days later with a huge smile on my face and sometimes it does not and I learn from my mistakes. So how do I get 'in' with a local? I use my 'Oscar Schindler' tactic and it rarely let's me down.
Remember that scene in Schindler's List where we first meet him? He is in a restaurant splashing the cash,buying officers drinks,making toasts,being 'That Man'. I do exactly the same. I usually head to a bar ( I do this in parks too wherever locals hang out but only with guy groups, not girls ) and see a group of male targets and get talking ( guys have non of the social pressures in talking to a foreigner ). They are usually simple guys in sports gear without much money to rub between them. Younger guys are better and ones that are on the cusp of being gopniki are great because they have access to slutty women. I'll buy us all drinks,get them drunk,invite them to England,make toasts to random shit,let them play on my I-phone where I happen to show them my photos of me in my drop top Merc or in exotic locations around the world etc. What I do not do is ever mention Belarusian girls to these types unless they do,I never give them the impression that they should in any way hide their women from me or I am using them to gain access. At the end of the night they usually escort me back to my hotel,we hug it out and I go to bed. Whilst I'm asleep however I know these dudes are phoning their other friends and GF's telling them about this foreigner they met and that he's a great laugh,bought them beer all night. You are officially 'in'. Now you're new buddies who think you are the shit,will call you up to smoke weed or drink. They will also want to show you off to their female friends and GF's because now they have a foreign friend they have a higher value and they will have friends asking if they can be introduced. It always works like that. You don't need to say anything to impress the girls when you meet them because these guys will big you up to them themselves,they will give you the ultimate accomplishment intros without realising they have just set a cat amongst the pigeons. From here on in you can drop your new friends ( this is easier said then done as these guys can be persistent! I have had them call me repeatedly to the point where I have had to lie that I have left town and then had to avoid them for the rest of my stay which is stressful ) and just run your game on the girls and get your bangs in the way you usually would in the FSU. This technique is one that I rely on constantly in a town where I know nobody and it does not let me down often. Another technique is to FB friend people so that you know someone,anyone in the town. Then you say you plan to visit and they will offer show you around the town. No doubt you will be taken to the promenade in the evening and because you are now not the foreign stranger but 'Sergei's friend' for example you can talk to women without them worrying about it. In my personal experience the best people to FB close are older women,not because you want to bang them but because they are great match makers and if they know you are single and like you they will try to set you up with local single girls that they know or are daughters of their friends. I have one middle aged woman there right now who has invited me to stay with her in Kletsk for a week. I guarantee by the end of it she will be matchmaking for me. On two occasions in these towns I have had mothers ask me if I would like to take out their daughters. Both times I was with my LTR so I declined but things like that can happen if you look like son in law material : )
First Tier Bang:
Larger cities like Gomel and Vitsebsk ( the two I know best in the region ) are a different ball game. If you can get laid in the second tier you will have no problems here in the first tier. These are towns with a choice of bars,a couple of clubs,outdoor beer gardens and you will meet an open minded female population who are mostly at a local university and hence free of the constrictive conservatism of their own towns. These towns also have football teams that play in Europe and international events such as 'Slavansky Bazaar' so the outlook is more Westernised. Although I don't know Minsk and have never been out gaming there ( that will change soon! ) I would think the what works there would work here pretty much, The Oscar Schindler approach is not needed here but I still try to find a local wing on my first night. The social proof he offers will reap dividends and hopefully he will sort you out a place to stay ( he will also feel it his duty to introduce you to one of his single friends ). What you want to do here is go to the local hang out ( in Gomel it is by the fountain near the FC Gomel stadium. In Vitsebsk I found it to be the park in the middle of town where the outdoor shashlik and beer places are ) and with your wing approach girls like you would anywhere else. I have had some great success in these places and loved the banter with the girls. You don't need to complicate things with thinking about how to approach correctly just use the tried and tested and common way to meet women in this part of the world: sit at a table at an outside beer place like the one in front of the Hotel Tourist in Gomel and have a beer. When you see a table with alone pair of girls on it you go over and invite them to join you ( In Russian you can say "davstate nam kompanye" ). Hopefully they speak English but if not your wing should be earning his beer and gaming them for you both. If he is not then he needs to be replaced. From there you just run your normal game banter and invite them to a club. Not everyone can afford a club so it can be a persuasive proposition. You are however expected to pay for entry and drinks. If you have some dance floor skills you will do well as FSU men generally can't dance for shit. Escalate kino but don't go for the kiss yet wait til you get to the sex location which is often the stairwell of the girl's apartment block. Outside of Gomel there is a place by the river bank where people go to fuck after clubbing. If you have a car with you as I did get your wing to direct you all there. It's down a sandy track with lots of little private parking spots that affords privacy from bushes and trees. You park up,break open the beer,switch on the cd player and escalate to sex. It's that formulaic that you can do it with your eyes closed eventually. If you spent a month in Vitsebsk for example,you would get a lot of bangs with some great looking women if you just did these simple things and played it right and had some Russian skills.
Overall verdict of provincial Belarus bangs:
I have to be honest,it is a hard place to bang out there. This is not newbie territory by any stretch of the imagination. Unsmiling people,lack of English,conservative social mores,no other tourists to bump into and party with,lack of things to do when not gaming,expensive hotels of poor standard,three tier pricing system where foreigners get charged more.....It's only for the masochists among us. I liked it,but I get a kick out of testing myself against the elements and emerging triumphant ( sometimes ). The rewards are some great looking women who are a joy to open up and bring out of their shells,like opening a Matryoshka doll but it won't be for everyone. If you want to party in decent clubs,meet English speaking women and ease yourself into the FSU experience then stick to Kiev which is a great city to party in. But if you want a challenge then maybe come and see for yourself what the provinces are like.
Provincial Belarus is a place unlike anywhere else I have been in Europe. It's one of empty roads running in a straight line through endless forests and fence-less fields. The pace of life is slow. The region that I know well ( South East ) is a flat land scattered with small villages that are stuck in time. Many of the villages have no running water,babushkas still have to use the outside toilet in winter when it is minus 20 centigrade. Life revolves around the Kolkhoz which employs a lot of the residents of these villages. There are no gaming options here. The only girls you see are young teenagers staying with their babushka/dedushka during the school holidays. Everyone else left as soon as they could. Next up you have the towns,small in population and small on entertainment options. These towns like Hoiniki or Zhlobin are usually identical: they have some shops selling vitals,a market place selling produce from dachas,a Soviet hotel that is overpriced,the local factory that employs the town,a couple of bars,a couple of restaurants and a train station. There is a main street and then apartment blocks all around it. These places offer practically nothing for a tourist interested in seeing any kind of 'sights'. These towns do have some great looking women and are worth targeting if you have time to dedicate to the place,have an adventurous spirit and speak some Russian. However even with that you can find it hit or miss. I have had great successes and miserable failures in these towns. Finally you have the big towns: Gomel,Vitsebsk,Mogilov. University towns with a lot of girls in the right age group. There is a lot more to do then the second tier towns in terms of entertainment and gaming. You have clubs ( don't get too excited ),bars and a more open minded group of women who have escaped their smaller towns at the small town mentality. These should be your primary base and you can have a lot of fun here.
It's not a cliché,the women there are certainly more reserved on the whole then Russian women,but don't put them on a pedestal,they are still Slavic and are not a demure push over. They give as good as they get when the occasion demands. They are a good looking race of women but I would put Ukrainians above them because personally I like brunettes and there are more in the Ukraine and also because Ukrainian women dress better and do themselves up more. Belarusian women are an attractive race but a little conservative and this translates to their style as well as their values and thinking. With average wages in the low $100's they tend to buy their clothes on the weekend markets that pop up on the outskirts of these towns. Hence the styles are cheap and cheerful Ukrainian imports. They always make the best of themselves though with what they have but they just don't dress in that slutty way I love to see south of the border.
Another thing worth mentioning is that despite not having much in terms of money the people are not all clamouring to get out of there. Do not expect that as a foreigner in the backwaters you will in any way have women of quality throwing themselves at you. To bang out there you must bring some game to the table. I have been in towns in the south where the people have nothing,the only jobs are working bare foot in cow shit on the local Kolkhoz for $120 a month,the infrastructure has collapsed,it's been irradiated by Chernobyl and still the women I have met in shops or on the street have shown little interest in meeting me. Some people ( this forum is very clued up on the whole ) have this romantic image of walking into town in their Gucci loafers and snagging a 10 due to the poverty. It might happen but it probably won't. It is surprising how totally uninterested in a rare foreigner they are considering he may be seen as a way out. People seem far more interested in me in Russia then Belarus. I kind of like that attitude.
Let's look at how to bang in this part of the world. There is no need to discuss villages and smaller towns as there are hardly any opportunities to bother with. I don't actually know what the difference is between second and first tier cities so for the purpose of this post we will call Gomel,Vitsebsk,first tier and Rechitsa,Bobruisk etc. second tier.
Second Tier Bang:
If you want to bang in the provinces you have to approach things in a certain way. Outside of Minsk foreigners are rare. In my 4 summers there I only ever met one in the provinces a mid 50's Englishmen who had married a local woman. This means you stand out,big time! People will turn their heads when they hear your accent. They also have an innate ability to spot a foreigner from a hundred yards away without hearing you speak. I never worked out how people instinctively knew I was a foreigner even when I was just on my way to the gym in a t-shirt and trackie bottoms. Anyway this 'standing out' from the crowd can hinder you down there because in these smaller towns everyone knows everyone and due to the monotony of life people gossip,a lot. News of a foreigner in town spreads.
So out in the open if you stop to talk to a girl in the street she can be very reluctant to engage with you because of what passers by may think of her. For example I approached a girl once in Bobruisk,we got talking and as we did so on the main road a woman walked past and said under her breath 'prostitutka' to her. That ended that interaction! I heard my LTR's mother say the same thing once when driving through a small town. Two girls were dancing in a park to music on a radio. She looked at them and said "prostitutes!". WTF! I asked her why she said that and she said that girls who make a show of themselves in public are obviously prostitutes or sluts ( I actually think the word prostitute out here is used more to mean slut then it is an actual prostitute ) . That is what you are up against out here in the smaller towns. So girls know that if they are seen talking to a stranger in their town and laughing and flirting that they can very quickly have rumours spread about them by whoever sees her. Now if you were seen as someone who might be there long term then she may be willing to take the risk but to her you are just a tourist passing through and hence why bother risking the rumours and innuendo being spread? I never had this problem in Russia where the girls are more forthright and free but here in the backwoods of one of Europe's most conservative countries the mindset prevails .Now this would not be such an issue if there was a bar culture out there. In the confines of a bar where girls are with like minded people and not being watched or judged by their parent's colleagues,neighbours etc. they would no doubt be more open and less wary of you approaching. But the problem is that such a culture does not exist in the provinces. There are some bars ( usually with a table of Gopniki at it sharing a bottle between them ) but due to lack of money the way friends relax is by chipping in for a large bottle of 'Rechitsa' beer between them and going for a promenade with the rest of the town down by the river bank or through the local park. So you are kind of reduced to having to do cold approaches which as I explained are difficult in public view. ( I have to re-iterate that I am talking generally. Every rule can be broken and I have had success by breaking them, I am merely pointing out what I have found in the majority of my own personal experiences ).
So how do you get laid in the provinces? The sure fire way to get laid in the provinces is pretty much the same as any FSU provincial town, you spend time in one town,say a month. You rent an apartment get known,have Russian lessons and meet people. Unfortunately we don't all have the time or inclination to do that. We usually have just a few days in a town and so your tactic is that you must get 'in' with a local. Your best bet is Mamba. You'll find girls on there from most Belarusian towns ( be warned that English levels are low ). I think mamba is a great tool and can reap great results but I don't often use it. The reason why not is I love the uncertainty of arriving in a town and not knowing what will happen,that is what I keep going back for,to challenge myself. I love arriving in an nondescript town in the FSU backwaters where I do not know a soul,where the people look unwelcoming and then over the course of a few days using my guile and wit to get past that and end up in bed with a good looking girl. Sometimes it works and I get on the train out of there a few days later with a huge smile on my face and sometimes it does not and I learn from my mistakes. So how do I get 'in' with a local? I use my 'Oscar Schindler' tactic and it rarely let's me down.
Remember that scene in Schindler's List where we first meet him? He is in a restaurant splashing the cash,buying officers drinks,making toasts,being 'That Man'. I do exactly the same. I usually head to a bar ( I do this in parks too wherever locals hang out but only with guy groups, not girls ) and see a group of male targets and get talking ( guys have non of the social pressures in talking to a foreigner ). They are usually simple guys in sports gear without much money to rub between them. Younger guys are better and ones that are on the cusp of being gopniki are great because they have access to slutty women. I'll buy us all drinks,get them drunk,invite them to England,make toasts to random shit,let them play on my I-phone where I happen to show them my photos of me in my drop top Merc or in exotic locations around the world etc. What I do not do is ever mention Belarusian girls to these types unless they do,I never give them the impression that they should in any way hide their women from me or I am using them to gain access. At the end of the night they usually escort me back to my hotel,we hug it out and I go to bed. Whilst I'm asleep however I know these dudes are phoning their other friends and GF's telling them about this foreigner they met and that he's a great laugh,bought them beer all night. You are officially 'in'. Now you're new buddies who think you are the shit,will call you up to smoke weed or drink. They will also want to show you off to their female friends and GF's because now they have a foreign friend they have a higher value and they will have friends asking if they can be introduced. It always works like that. You don't need to say anything to impress the girls when you meet them because these guys will big you up to them themselves,they will give you the ultimate accomplishment intros without realising they have just set a cat amongst the pigeons. From here on in you can drop your new friends ( this is easier said then done as these guys can be persistent! I have had them call me repeatedly to the point where I have had to lie that I have left town and then had to avoid them for the rest of my stay which is stressful ) and just run your game on the girls and get your bangs in the way you usually would in the FSU. This technique is one that I rely on constantly in a town where I know nobody and it does not let me down often. Another technique is to FB friend people so that you know someone,anyone in the town. Then you say you plan to visit and they will offer show you around the town. No doubt you will be taken to the promenade in the evening and because you are now not the foreign stranger but 'Sergei's friend' for example you can talk to women without them worrying about it. In my personal experience the best people to FB close are older women,not because you want to bang them but because they are great match makers and if they know you are single and like you they will try to set you up with local single girls that they know or are daughters of their friends. I have one middle aged woman there right now who has invited me to stay with her in Kletsk for a week. I guarantee by the end of it she will be matchmaking for me. On two occasions in these towns I have had mothers ask me if I would like to take out their daughters. Both times I was with my LTR so I declined but things like that can happen if you look like son in law material : )
First Tier Bang:
Larger cities like Gomel and Vitsebsk ( the two I know best in the region ) are a different ball game. If you can get laid in the second tier you will have no problems here in the first tier. These are towns with a choice of bars,a couple of clubs,outdoor beer gardens and you will meet an open minded female population who are mostly at a local university and hence free of the constrictive conservatism of their own towns. These towns also have football teams that play in Europe and international events such as 'Slavansky Bazaar' so the outlook is more Westernised. Although I don't know Minsk and have never been out gaming there ( that will change soon! ) I would think the what works there would work here pretty much, The Oscar Schindler approach is not needed here but I still try to find a local wing on my first night. The social proof he offers will reap dividends and hopefully he will sort you out a place to stay ( he will also feel it his duty to introduce you to one of his single friends ). What you want to do here is go to the local hang out ( in Gomel it is by the fountain near the FC Gomel stadium. In Vitsebsk I found it to be the park in the middle of town where the outdoor shashlik and beer places are ) and with your wing approach girls like you would anywhere else. I have had some great success in these places and loved the banter with the girls. You don't need to complicate things with thinking about how to approach correctly just use the tried and tested and common way to meet women in this part of the world: sit at a table at an outside beer place like the one in front of the Hotel Tourist in Gomel and have a beer. When you see a table with alone pair of girls on it you go over and invite them to join you ( In Russian you can say "davstate nam kompanye" ). Hopefully they speak English but if not your wing should be earning his beer and gaming them for you both. If he is not then he needs to be replaced. From there you just run your normal game banter and invite them to a club. Not everyone can afford a club so it can be a persuasive proposition. You are however expected to pay for entry and drinks. If you have some dance floor skills you will do well as FSU men generally can't dance for shit. Escalate kino but don't go for the kiss yet wait til you get to the sex location which is often the stairwell of the girl's apartment block. Outside of Gomel there is a place by the river bank where people go to fuck after clubbing. If you have a car with you as I did get your wing to direct you all there. It's down a sandy track with lots of little private parking spots that affords privacy from bushes and trees. You park up,break open the beer,switch on the cd player and escalate to sex. It's that formulaic that you can do it with your eyes closed eventually. If you spent a month in Vitsebsk for example,you would get a lot of bangs with some great looking women if you just did these simple things and played it right and had some Russian skills.
Overall verdict of provincial Belarus bangs:
I have to be honest,it is a hard place to bang out there. This is not newbie territory by any stretch of the imagination. Unsmiling people,lack of English,conservative social mores,no other tourists to bump into and party with,lack of things to do when not gaming,expensive hotels of poor standard,three tier pricing system where foreigners get charged more.....It's only for the masochists among us. I liked it,but I get a kick out of testing myself against the elements and emerging triumphant ( sometimes ). The rewards are some great looking women who are a joy to open up and bring out of their shells,like opening a Matryoshka doll but it won't be for everyone. If you want to party in decent clubs,meet English speaking women and ease yourself into the FSU experience then stick to Kiev which is a great city to party in. But if you want a challenge then maybe come and see for yourself what the provinces are like.