So this past weekend I had something of an "awakening" when I was arrested for the first time in my life at a popular downtown bar. For months I've been approaching at my university, getting numbers during the day and hook ups on weekends, but I always let those successes get in the way of ultimate success by becoming lazy. I found myself lacking the drive to approach like a machine and instead, hung onto the few prospects I had hoping they would pull through. I even found myself thinking that I could never have real confidence until that first notch, and that I should wait for it before I "really" made an effort to get into the game.
Well, on Friday I was the only one pulled out of that bar (possession of alcohol by a minor) and it hit me like a truck: I hate going to bars and frat parties, and I hate wasting the little money I have on alcohol, yet I'M the one getting pulled out of a bar and taken to the police station for the night. The only reason I go to these places is to improve my game and try to get a girl back to the dorm while my college buddies work on getting their BAC closer to blackout levels. I needed to stop fucking around, get out there and get what I want the old fashioned way, through hard work and not by waiting for someone else to make things easier for me.
Since then I've gotten two numbers (would be higher if my day game was tighter; the attraction was there with many more girls but I let them get away when distractions came up). I have been approaching like a madman like I should and I figured out that day game is my real strength. When it comes to approaching cute girls during the day, my confidence and conversational ability is unmatched on campus, which really separates me from the pack, and I still haven't even reached my potential.
Now I've decided to focus on day game since its where my strengths lie and I feel more in my niche. At night my confidence doesn't stand out as much and I'm not very good at getting a cocky-funny vibe going, but during the day my value shows. I know that day game alone won't get the job done, but day approaches show many more of my alpha traits than night approaches. I'll still get girls out and having a good time before going for the lay, but more of the interactions with new girls will start during the day.
I'm looking for opinions on the style I'm trying to develop and how well the people on this forum think it will work. Also, I have a few questions: What is the best way to handle numbers that I get early in the week? I'm in a unique situation as a college student since it would be weird to invite a girl out before the weekend, yet I get a significant amount of numbers on sunday/monday/tuesday. For example, I got a number this morning (monday) and I want to get the girl out on a friday. Should I be texting her over the next few days to keep up the attraction from the initial approach or should I wait until friday night before I even try to contact her? Also, what are my options when I only have a couple minutes to talk to a girl before a distraction comes up? I'll approach girls on line very often and they'll rarely wait for me to keep a conversation going since it would require them to take initiative themselves.
Long post but really explains everything that defines my game at this point in my life. I only got into the game at the beginning of last semester as a first year college student and this is where I stand now.
Well, on Friday I was the only one pulled out of that bar (possession of alcohol by a minor) and it hit me like a truck: I hate going to bars and frat parties, and I hate wasting the little money I have on alcohol, yet I'M the one getting pulled out of a bar and taken to the police station for the night. The only reason I go to these places is to improve my game and try to get a girl back to the dorm while my college buddies work on getting their BAC closer to blackout levels. I needed to stop fucking around, get out there and get what I want the old fashioned way, through hard work and not by waiting for someone else to make things easier for me.
Since then I've gotten two numbers (would be higher if my day game was tighter; the attraction was there with many more girls but I let them get away when distractions came up). I have been approaching like a madman like I should and I figured out that day game is my real strength. When it comes to approaching cute girls during the day, my confidence and conversational ability is unmatched on campus, which really separates me from the pack, and I still haven't even reached my potential.
Now I've decided to focus on day game since its where my strengths lie and I feel more in my niche. At night my confidence doesn't stand out as much and I'm not very good at getting a cocky-funny vibe going, but during the day my value shows. I know that day game alone won't get the job done, but day approaches show many more of my alpha traits than night approaches. I'll still get girls out and having a good time before going for the lay, but more of the interactions with new girls will start during the day.
I'm looking for opinions on the style I'm trying to develop and how well the people on this forum think it will work. Also, I have a few questions: What is the best way to handle numbers that I get early in the week? I'm in a unique situation as a college student since it would be weird to invite a girl out before the weekend, yet I get a significant amount of numbers on sunday/monday/tuesday. For example, I got a number this morning (monday) and I want to get the girl out on a friday. Should I be texting her over the next few days to keep up the attraction from the initial approach or should I wait until friday night before I even try to contact her? Also, what are my options when I only have a couple minutes to talk to a girl before a distraction comes up? I'll approach girls on line very often and they'll rarely wait for me to keep a conversation going since it would require them to take initiative themselves.
Long post but really explains everything that defines my game at this point in my life. I only got into the game at the beginning of last semester as a first year college student and this is where I stand now.