^ WIA nailed it.
Carlos: all you have to do to avoid conversational dead spots is to frame topics in a way that lets her talk about her emotional response to them.
Say conversation is flagging and you notice car racing on the TV at the bar. You don't talk about it technically, or about the skill level of the driver. You motion to it and say "How do you think it would feel to go that fast?"
If, god help you, 'Lord Of The Rings' did come up, you wouldn't talk about the books, or the production, or the director. You'd ask her if she thought Liv Tyler (always use celebrity names) made the right choice forsaking immortality for Viggo Mortenson. "Can you imagine yourself as an Elf Princess? Would you give that up for love?"
Emotion and sensation. You can steer any topic towards it. Letting her discuss such topics creates intimacy. You'll probably hear "I can't believe I told you that!"
Carlos: all you have to do to avoid conversational dead spots is to frame topics in a way that lets her talk about her emotional response to them.
Say conversation is flagging and you notice car racing on the TV at the bar. You don't talk about it technically, or about the skill level of the driver. You motion to it and say "How do you think it would feel to go that fast?"
If, god help you, 'Lord Of The Rings' did come up, you wouldn't talk about the books, or the production, or the director. You'd ask her if she thought Liv Tyler (always use celebrity names) made the right choice forsaking immortality for Viggo Mortenson. "Can you imagine yourself as an Elf Princess? Would you give that up for love?"
Emotion and sensation. You can steer any topic towards it. Letting her discuss such topics creates intimacy. You'll probably hear "I can't believe I told you that!"