jariel nailed it.
She said she would be late because of SHOPPING. Not an emergency, not a work problem, but a SHOPPING activity. And then she flakes on you.
There are 2 categories of flakes:
#1: A girl who will cancel BEFORE the event and offer you an alternate date - This girl deserves a second chance (but not a third!)
#2: A girl who says she will be late, THEN flakes - This girl deserves radio silence
You offered to take her to a cafe - nothing special in there - and she refused. You let her have control of the frame. You totally fell in her frame. You can just say "let's go to the cafe I know" and start walking.
At least you recognize that you fell in beta mode - it's all right, we add did that in our earlier days.
To sum it up:
- You let her control the frame
- You search for her phone for her
- She doesn't invite you inside
- Her parents invite you and she ignores you
- Her shopping is more important
If you perceive yourself as a man of value, make sure girls act with you accordingly. What she did was plain disrespectful, as well as having friendzoned you.
Never contact her again.
She said she would be late because of SHOPPING. Not an emergency, not a work problem, but a SHOPPING activity. And then she flakes on you.
There are 2 categories of flakes:
#1: A girl who will cancel BEFORE the event and offer you an alternate date - This girl deserves a second chance (but not a third!)
#2: A girl who says she will be late, THEN flakes - This girl deserves radio silence
You offered to take her to a cafe - nothing special in there - and she refused. You let her have control of the frame. You totally fell in her frame. You can just say "let's go to the cafe I know" and start walking.
At least you recognize that you fell in beta mode - it's all right, we add did that in our earlier days.
To sum it up:
- You let her control the frame
- You search for her phone for her
- She doesn't invite you inside
- Her parents invite you and she ignores you
- Her shopping is more important
If you perceive yourself as a man of value, make sure girls act with you accordingly. What she did was plain disrespectful, as well as having friendzoned you.
Never contact her again.