Quote: (07-14-2014 09:43 AM)aphelion Wrote:
This is part and parcel of why Mark Manson advocates showing desire. Once you successfully indicate that you're A) a high value male and B) that you genuinely desire the object of your affection, she can feel free to act upon her attraction as well.
A lot of times, the reason why valuable guys get rejected is that deep-seated fear that she is just being used for a bang. Genuine desire mollifies that fear.
indeed. the past year my game has become more of deflecting my status/value and being beta as shit. offering emotional intimacy, being affectionate, etc.
but my game is to guide them gently into being another one of the girls on rotation getting her dose of special time with me every so often.
women i'm meeting these days (aside from the one referenced above) seem to be very happy to find a guy who can offer them a safe place emotionally, great sex and an escape from the world - yet with neither party hoping/expecting it to escalate into a R-elationship. this space i've made for them seems to be particularly appealing.