Most of us have been in this guy's shoes to some extent or another. It's as cliché and typical as the classic "Nice Guys Finish Last" story gets. Yet another example to file into the archive that what women say they want and what they actually want never jive. Women are socially programmed to want the romantic-comedy version of love and monogamy: a meek, sensitive, co-dependent, safe guy who is sweet dedicated. Women are naturally programmed to a want an independent, masculine, confident, self-driven man who does what he wants on his terms. Problem is, these two piles of attributes are somewhat mutually exclusive. You cannot have both. You can't have a strong and sensitive man. You can't have an accommodating and independent man. You can't have a sweet and bold man. You can find men who have mixtures of these qualities at varying levels, but you will never find one who goes down the checklist.
Truth be told, women suffer the same problem that men do: We want a woman who is sexy, a whore in the bedroom, full of energy, and down to have fun and do whatever it is we like to do, but we also want a woman who is meek, domesticated, reserved, sweet, and nurturing. Same deal - these qualities cannot all coexist.
It's the Catch 22 of contemporary Western courtship.
Truth be told, women suffer the same problem that men do: We want a woman who is sexy, a whore in the bedroom, full of energy, and down to have fun and do whatever it is we like to do, but we also want a woman who is meek, domesticated, reserved, sweet, and nurturing. Same deal - these qualities cannot all coexist.
It's the Catch 22 of contemporary Western courtship.