Quote: (06-04-2011 11:21 PM)arkanBrah Wrote:
I've had an interesting, yet somewhat common occurance happen to me and I know that there are others that this has happened to as well. I'm hoping some of you seasoned hustlers can chime in on how you handle a similar situation when it happens...
I recently ran into a girl at an improv show (I'm in LA btw) that screened my calls and ignored 2 texts that I sent.
A little backstory...I met this girl in an 8 week class where we would always chat and I knew there was a bit of attraction and slight tension (we're both from the south). She's 23, legit 8 (slight onset of cankles may prevent her from going higher) and I get the impression from her facebook pictures that she does occasionally hit the clubs in the Hollywood area (uhhhhhoohhhhh). All signs point to a little slutty...which is fine because, why wouldn't I want to fuck a 23 year old in her prime?
My plan was to get this girls number during one of the last classes for two reasons: 1) in the case that she wasn't into me I didn't want any extreme awkwardness in class because I had showed interest and she didn't reciprocate, and 2) I was in a relationship 6 weeks into the classes (I don't cheat). But I missed the opportunity to get it in person because I was busy the 7th week and she didn't show up the last. So, I thought "what the hell, probably won't see her again anyway" and spit some e-game:
Facebook:
Me: subject line: are all nashville girls...
too cool for the last day of class? or just you?
Her: Haha well... I can't speak for any other Nashvillians other then myself (although we arre pretty cool) but yeah I was sooo bummed I missed the last day of class! I got really sick with a kidney infection last week it was not fun! [Her birthday was the night before the last class and I saw on facebook where she went out, but regardless, I don't care if she's telling the truth or not.] How was it? I'm gonna miss our class!
Me: umm..ouch bad stuff. im outta town for a few days but when im back let's get together. whats your #. oh yea u missed initiation into [teacher's name] super secret commercial club...maybe I'll show u the handshake if ur lucky
Her: I can't believe I missed out on a handshake! I can't live my life not knowing the handshake. My number is xxx-xxx-xxxx
So once I got back in town 1.5 weeks after this exchange, I call. No answer (Sunday). Send a text saying "couldn't leave vmail...i'll call u later." Wait two days and call, no answer. She calls back and I miss it in the shower. Try to call back 30 min later, no answer.
Tried calling a week later on a Tuesday, no answer.
Normally I wouldn't care at all and just delete it and move on. But at a theatre 4 days after that last call attempt by me, I am at an improv show by myself and see her across the room meeting up with a girlfriend. We exchange eye contact for a split second, one of those "is that actually her/him?" type glances. Then I don't look back at her and just enjoy the show. I'm currently getting it in with a few others so I didn't sweat it at all.
After the show, she gets out before me and sitting on a bench by herself with her back sort of angled away from the aisle that everyone walks out to leave the theatre. I got that feeling that it was like she wanted me to approach her and chat her up. Probably due to my ego defense mechanism, I decided to text back another girl I had plans with later and walked right past her. Didn't speak. In my mind I didn't want to give her the validation of going up and talking to her after she had basically shut my game down and ignored my attempts to contact her on the phone.
Honestly, the reality of the situation is this: I'm 5'4", she's probably 5'6" or so. Maybe I didn't get out front enough with the negs in those first few weeks that we were in class. Maybe our conversations got too friendly throughout those weeks, even though in that last class we had some prolonged eye contact. She's also 23, in her prime, in LA of all places so there's no doubt she's inclined to be flaky.
[Focus: Did I handle this situation effectively? In your experience, what have you done in a similar situation? What are your experiences like with girls in their prime (18-24) that show some interest then pull back?]
I understand you not wanting to seem needy and all, but in the beginning a guy has to put himself out there a little. Going a week without calling after you missed her call was a bit extreme. Yes, I know you called back and she didn't answer, but she did make the attempt, and you're already aware she's somewhat flakey. I totally don't understand why you didn't speak to her at the comedy club. You're taking the 'save face' thing too far. You're coming across scorned rather than indifferent. I'm under the impression you were trying to make her a booty call, not a wife, so the need to 'put her in her place' and all of that isn't as pressing. I'm also not sure why you brought up the height thing.